Marry for love or money ?

[novembeer]

If u have to marry someone which one u will choose love or money .. u cannot choose both so plz don't say both ..

Yes, neither. I'd rather not be shackled like that.

For money is prostituting yourself

Have some respect for yourself

Love. If you want money then work hard for a good job.

I think your love category is too broad. My dad always said to choose someone interesting who I could talk to and still be interested in for many years, not just someone I lusted after (as that part subsides). That becomes a deeper love.

With regards to money, you don’t have to start with a little or a lot, but you both need the same attitude towards it. We are savers by instinct and if we can’t afford it we’ll save up. I had exes who were adorable but spent without thought, and that didn’t work.

So, I guess love (whatever in love means, nod to Prince Charles) but with a similar attitude to money.

Money , I know the ideal is meant to be love

Simple…. Love

@lunarlandscape I would go further than that. Those who marry for money nay as well get paid and get paid on the night.

Get laid and paid even

Love

How much money are we talking about?

@lunarlandscape

I feel sorry for all those suggesting money not love. You could marry a rich abusive man - loads of women do. Or a rich man who is controlling with the cash.

Why not make your own money? Or fall in love with a rich man?

No need to feel sorry for me.

Questin was love or money, not about abusive men.

Broke men can and are abusive.

Man who ”loves” you could cheat on you, leave you because you got old, sick, don’t have sex with him, wanted youger model……..

Money brings security.
Love brings you nothing.
Most people want something from you, it’s all very tit-for-tat.

What are you counting as love? If it's weak-at-the-knees romance/passion love, I think that's probably got the same chance of success or failure as money tbh.

Successful long-term relationships tend to be characterised by a more stable kind of love that encompasses rather more boring things like shared values and goals. It's more teamwork than 50 shades.

I also male my own money so I guess I'd say love. Although I wouldn't turn down a lottery win!

@Chunkymenrock

Yes, neither. I'd rather not be shackled like that.

Also a good choice

Marry for money love will come later!

Naaah I'm only joking!.....Marry for love and maintain your own financial independence!

Love. Make your own money.

Love. Me and my husband both work but we’re not wealthy people - we are not lazy and work hard in our jobs but they are unfortunately poorly paid despite being necessary jobs (I work childcare and retail which is shockingly low paid).

However, DH and I can have a laugh even when we don’t have much money. Rewatching a box set and eating an oven pizza with him is my favourite Friday evening and I don’t think drinking expensive wine and seeing the most exclusive theatre could be a better time with someone else. Money can only buy so much.

Of course if I could be rich with DH who I love that’s the ideal. But if the choice is money or love I would choose love.

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Definitely love. One of the most happiest couples that have been married for almost 50 years have struggled financially quite often but they are terribly in love - makes me jealous lol

Depends on how broker Love guy is and how unattractive Money guy is

Love. I had a rich husband previously and I fell out of love with him. The last 2 years of the relationship were full of guilt on my part and resentment and confusion on his. I'm single and on benefits now (disabled, so can only work 16 hours p/w) and am sooooo much happier.

Money!

Don’t really believe in love anymore.

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Love, 100%.

I’m perfectly capable of earning my own money.

Marrying for love is a lovely notion but not at all practical, marriage is a legal contract not a romantic one.
As a woman marrying for money makes sense if you have little or your earning power may take a hit with children and means you are protected somewhat in the event of a divorce, if you already have money marrying money ensures you don’t lose much if any in the event of a divorce.

Make your own money and marry for love.