Not online dating as such but someone you already know in rl or have mutual friends etc (Need to mention that as it does change things, obviously they know i'm a real person, that my kids are real, i'm not secretly married etc).
I may appear online but I could be doing any number of things, cooking tea, talking to my kids about their day, sorting out bills, having a quick bath etc.
Example: guy messages me, I dont read or reply straight away. Messages again "aren't you speaking to me?" Then again "what have I done?" Then again "How rude are you, you're probably just leading me on blah blah".
It REALLY annoys me. Back off pal, if you're going to get so irate because I was cleaning up dog shit in the garden/having a wee/writing an email, you aren't the one for me.
It's not just one, over the years i've met a few like this but it's far worse now that someone can SEE i'm online. Online doesn't mean available to have a long conversation. My dc are young adults, they're in and out at college and work and i'm not about to ignore them if they come in from a late shift and want a chat. I do try to explain this to people but it seems to make no difference.
Is it just me? Should I be a little more understanding? It makes me feel on edge that if I dont reply promptly i'm going to get someone being off with me. I have tried the "Hi, will chat later busy at the mo" approach just to get a message a couple of hours later "why haven't you messaged back?".
When someone does this, I just don't want to bother with them.