Nouning adjectives - dehumanising? TW

[EvenMoreFuriousVexation]

Tw for poss hate speech

Is it a bad sign when someone refers to other people this way? Examples:
"You are a lol"
"she is a cute!"
"He is a mental"
"she is a fat"
"he is a spurge" (aspergers)
"he is a sexy"

I've never heard this person using racist words, but I feel like

A 'spurge'?

Spurge is another name for plants in the Euphorbia family. They have caustic sap that can cause very unpleasant burns.

@HunkyPunk

Could this be a late teen/twenty-something who is now deliberately winding you(?) up by using language and lack of grammar that they know you don’t like? As this is posted in Relationships, I’m assuming it’s someone close, with whom you have a…tricky relationship? Could be completely wrong, obviously, but if it’s the case, it would give this some context.

I hate drip feeds so will just come clean and say its my sister. We are in our 40s.

@lentilsforever

Op

Is your issue with grammar
Or the actual content

It's with the content The grammar makes me twitch but I have kept that to myself.

Is it an affectation? Is it a habit learnt from others around them?

@ShinyHappyPoster

Is it an affectation? Is it a habit learnt from others around them?

I would be keen to believe this, but looking back at childhood I think this has been ongoing.

We shared an equally shitty upbringing.

Well if it’s content
I’m baffled you think
“He’s sexy” or “she’s cute” is… something to be peeved about

And to lump alongside fattist and disabilist comments is just plain odd

It's not he's sexy" or she's cute " though. I would have no problem with that

I’m sorry for your ‘equally shitty upbringing’, op. Was it at the hands of the same person/people? It’s just that you sound very…different from each other, but I suppose that sometimes happens with siblings. Still think she might want to wind you up deliberately. Does she use this grammatical anomaly and unpleasant terminology only with you, or does she lack communication skills generally?

He is a cute
He is a sexy

Who ever is saying this is illiterate

Some of those labels are obviously derogatory, but the rest of it sounds like slightly outdated internet lingo. Are they quite nerdy and do they spend a lot of time online?

@HunkyPunk

I’m sorry for your ‘equally shitty upbringing’, op. Was it at the hands of the same person/people? It’s just that you sound very…different from each other, but I suppose that sometimes happens with siblings. Still think she might want to wind you up deliberately. Does she use this grammatical anomaly and unpleasant terminology only with you, or does she lack communication skills generally?

Yes, it's my sister.