Bf not sexually attracted to me

[Jackiebriany]

He says I’ve put on weight (I haven’t really - a bit)
Which affected his sexual attraction to me
He still loves me and finds me attractive in other ways
We haven’t had sex in a long time
And he wants to try again
But I don’t feel secure
What shall I do ?
Help

Ffs dump him. You are worth so much more

@Otterhound

Thing is weight changes how someone looks - not just figure but face as well

Just because you have a partner doesnt mean you can think fuck it, im gonna let myself go and join the fat club and expect them to still fancy you.

I dont fancy curvy women never have and never will so it someone is a size 10 when we meet and becomes a size 14 thats the end of that.

Nothing for me to feel guilty about

🤮

I dont fancy curvy women never have and never will so it someone is a size 10 when we meet and becomes a size 14 thats the end of that. I suppose fair enough, after all I couldn’t sleep with anyone as shallow as this, and would be embarrassed to be out with them

How will that work when you're both in your 60s though when most people are fatter?

Most people may be, but it isn't inevitable.

My parents are slim.

I hope you find a resolution op. Look up some of the threads posted from women who don't find their male partners attractive anymore and you will see good advice rather than the ltb responses on here.

Wish you all the best.

@Sillawithans The thing is assuming OP is right that shhe hasn't put on all that much weight (she would know more than we would) then this sounds like just the sort of thing a psychologically abusive guy says to make a woman feel bad about herself.

Ummm.. people are allowed to find people phzsically attractive or not for different reasons. Some people don't find cubby people arrtractive - but presumably if you're in a long-term relationship you have discussed all of this way before this happened. He can't make himself fancy you if he no longer finds you physically attractive. You are no longer compatible. The way seems to have expressed this to you is awful, though.

Move on OP if you are unhappy and find someone who is better matched to you.

Lol! physically and chubby etc 🤣

@me4real I'm sure op is looking at the whole picture and not this comment in isolation.
Personally I have my own taste, as we all do and if my partner changed into what I don't like then I couldn't help myself but be less attracted to him.