Here I am again in another total quandary about dating. So, I met a man on Tinder, from a different country/culture to mine (that's my weakness in men) and we have been on three dates now. On the first couple of dates, he made an effort to ask me questions, talk about things I was interested in, etc. He is new in the country I live in and his English is good but not great. Works from home and is very quiet, doesn't drive as he lives in the city.
However, I notice a certain pattern developing. He doesn't seem to show any interest in travelling to where I am and keeps asking "when are you coming again". To be clear (and men just don't seem to read anything on dating profiles) I stated that I wanted to do interesting things like cinema, dining, events with somebody and slowly move to a relationship. We had dinner last night, which he didn't see the point of doing at all and then went back to his place and he was really ready to initiate sex but respectful when I said I wasn't ready.
But, I get the feeling that he sees me as a "hook up" only. I am happy to have a full physical relationship with somebody who I enjoy spending time with and doing things with but three dates, that's too early. I am separated and having dinners out and just chatting with another man is what I miss most about married life.
I wonder if he misunderstood this because I approached him on Tinder first? It's a 45 minute drive from my place up to where he is and the last thing I fancy is doing that drive a few times a week just to sit in his apartment and try and get him to be enthusiastic about going and doing things outside in the city. Am I a potential girlfriend or more FWB in his mind?