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Husband called me a ‘complete joke’

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Changernamerjoker · 25/10/2021 17:32

No back history of relationship to make it just about this.

On holiday - restaurant calls us a taxi, and says to walk up to road a bit (said in the Spanish language that husband is better at than me) we are with our kids 8 and 3.

I suggest that the taxi will likely be at the closest road so maybe we turn shortly after restaurant. Husband says that the direction meant ‘large square and the tiny roundabout I suggested wasn’t large sq’

So we walk on. And on and on. It becomes clear it probably was the little road right by the restaurant but husband is in a complete huff and won’t turn back. He says maybe I was right (after having been a bit condescending to me) and i say ok, maybe maybe he shouldn’t be so condescending.

He then responds with ‘you are a complete joke do you hear yourself?’ And storms off.

I’m left to look after the kids for the afternoon whilst he goes to a bar. Texts and apology but hasn’t spoken to me properly in about 24 hours.

Is he being a pig and what do I do?

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 27/10/2021 04:44

I think Google has made it worse.

Some of them consider the internet a way to bolster up their fragile self esteem.

Booboo24 · 27/10/2021 08:36

Having read the full thread, I'm now going completely against the grain....I would say it was just him in a bad mood, hardly abusive (certainly no more than we are all doing by calling him a pig or a tosser etc even if he's unaware of it!) Yes he WAS a bit of a pig, but aren't we all sometimes? The sulking would annoy me, and I'd make my feelings clear but then, as he's apologised I'd let this go. As for him always treating you like an idiot that does need addressing, which sounds like you did this time. Unfortunately I think a lot of men in high earner roles become like this, doesn't mean we have to put up with it though so I would certainly call him out on it each time

freeatlast2021 · 27/10/2021 16:52

Calling someone "a complete joke" is totally unacceptable. Simply just apologizing for something like this does not make it go away.

CecilieRose · 27/10/2021 17:44

@freeatlast2021

Calling someone "a complete joke" is totally unacceptable. Simply just apologizing for something like this does not make it go away.
Yes, it's contemptuous and abusive.
mathanxiety · 27/10/2021 22:20

This is not isolated behaviour, @Booboo24

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