Moved in after 2 months

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My partner has moved in with me after 2 months. Has anyone moved in so quickly and everything worked out? He is amazing! I've truly never felt like this about anyone before.

Why would you move him in after only 2 months?

@JustKittenAround he was spending a lot of time here, had been staying at a family members, so made sense that he just moved in. I know it's quick but I enjoy spending time with him. He helps around the house etc too

Do you have children?

If so, it's far, far, far too soon for him to be living with you.

That sounds like a truly terrible idea.

Yep-I did! It was a stupid, stupid mistake.

I got engaged after 4 months and moved in together but I’d known him for years before hand. We also didn’t have any children. Now I’m a mother I’d never move so quickly! However, we are still going strong nearly 20 years later.

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

Well.. I don’t know you. But I can tell you what usually from my experience happens in these situations.

Usually it is a big red flag. You haven’t gotten to really know him and now you’re living with essentially a stranger who you are smitten with. He is odd for being so keen on it. So kinda just… usual in healthy relationships.

Usually it won’t work out. But you’re in the situation now… might as well give it a go. Just please don’t put up with any bad treatment.

Narcissistic types are VERY good at this stage of sweeping you up beyond reason. It is extremely common for them to operate this way.

Please take care of yourself and keep an eye out for bad behavior or subtle abuse. Don’t take any shit, because it’ll get worse. You’re now in a situation where even relatively small fights are now going to be much bigger because you live together.

I guess what I’m saying is that it’s fun to play house but in any relationship that new exciting fun wears off. That is where the rubber hits the road. That’s the time real feelings and an actual relationship develops.

Please take care of yourself, and do not lower your standards or move your boundaries.

made sense that he just moved in

No it would have made sense for him to stand on his own feet rather than rush a relationship. It takes a very long time to know someone so you don't know him yet.

If you are young and child free and own a property then make sure he isn't going to claim anything from your house. If you have children you are crazy and get him moved out ASAP.

Hope no kids are involved otherwise I don’t care, my ex moved in with a one he met once 5 weeks after we broke up and I had a new born 😒

I'm going to be one of the, I imagine, rare success stories. I moved in with my DH near enough straight away. Not officially, he just asked me to stay there a lot and over a couple of months or so it became permanent. We then got engaged at 6 months. It wasn't how I ever envisaged things but we really enjoyed each other's company and have done for 10 years since. I hope it works out for you too x

My best friend recently celebrated her silver wedding. He stayed over on their first date and never left.

DH and I were engaged within a month. I sold up and moved in with a couple of months later. Married a couple of months after that. Just celebrated our 22nd anniversary.

DH's brother and his wife married within three months of meeting. Over 30 years ago.

So yes. It can work.

Oh! Some reasons why you might not want to do this are :

Now you’re robbed of the courting phase where he has to take you out and win your heart or whatever the kids call it these days. It’s a little sad you skipped some of the best and most memorable times in a relationship.

You’ve sped up the relationship without a foundation and this will effect how you socialize and your hobbies. Job and schooling.. your whole life is now changed for this man you hardly know.

People have differing ideas about this but like all argumentative people on the Internet I swear I’m right (half kidding lol) … if you want marriage and all that you have made it easy for him to enjoy all the married benefits without actually doing it. A man should earn all the work women do. It’s so undervalued as it is.

DON’T GET PREGNANT

Don’t you become that statistic. For all that is good and holy do not tie yourself in such a way to someone you don’t know. Please!!! I don’t care how great he is, how much he wants you to be a real family (Fill in what guys say to get you to have their kids). You will regret it very likely and it will become much harder to find a good life partner with a kid in tow because it’s just more complicated.

Yes, after date 2. Married almost 10 years and got divorced. I should have got divorced at year 1.

If you pass the 6 month mark, that's when you should think about moving in.

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

This should be on a fridge magnet.

OP, to answer your question, I’ve known several people who have moved in together quickly and none have worked out.

In most cases, the man was in need of accommodation, liked the added benefit of sex and a housekeeper, and didn’t contribute financially.

I don’t think there’s any argument against getting to know someone well before you move them in.

At the end of the day, you’re an adult but you should seriously ask yourself what’s going on his his life that makes this such a good deal for him.

And, if you have children in the home, you really, really need to think again.

Hobosexual???

Yes after 2 weeks, turned out to be 20 years of hell. Everything was lovely at first, unfortunately it wasn't wonderful for very long.

Dh and I moved in together after 2 weeks, it's worked out wonderfully.

I got with my DP at the end of October and by mid March I'd moved in. Not quite as fast, but still fast. It was because of circumstances, I had to move out from where I was living, things were tough as I work freelance so couldn't afford another place. My options were live with my mum or move in with him. We both agreed we liked where this was going. He has a teenage son who I got on well with, so he asked me whether I would like to move in. Not the most romantic situation, as it arose out of necessary and practicality more than anything else - but 4 years later and we are very happy.

FWIW I don't think I'd have moved that quickly if I hadn't been forced to, though. But that's not to say it won't work out!

I moved in with my DH after 1 month. That was 1986, we married in '87. Two children + 2 grandchildren later we're still going strong. It hasn't always been a walk in the park, particularly when the DC were small, but we put the work in and it's paid off.

If there are children involved however, I would advise extreme caution.

Of course you enjoy spending time together. It is supposed to feel like in the beginning of a relationship. Crazy to move in so so soon.

Genuine question - why did you feel the need to move in together and not just stay at each other’s places all of the time?

Why are you posting on here? Are you regretting it?

No one falls in love quicker than someone who needs somewhere to stay. He’s in love with your tenancy/mortgage