Moved in after 2 months

[Anxietytakesover]

My partner has moved in with me after 2 months. Has anyone moved in so quickly and everything worked out? He is amazing! I've truly never felt like this about anyone before.

@pheonixrebirth

Hobosexual???

🤣🤣

My boyfriend moved in with me after a month when I was 20, he was sleeping on his dads sofa. Turned out to be an abusive dick, one DD and 8 years later i finally managed to get him to go.

Been with new boyfriend for 2.5 years and he is only just moving in soon. I hope you don’t have children involved in this.

The thing is, of course there are people that are still together years later after moving in together quickly. Some will be happy and some won’t.
BUT, would you be at ease if your adult children moved in with their partner so soon, or your sibling or best friend? I would think most people would advise them against doing it so quickly as it has more risks than moving in with a partner you’ve known for a few years. Most relationships will be fantastic after a couple of months.

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

😂

My BF moved in after about 3 weeks. He lived in a uni accommodation - small room with 3 other ppl, shared toilet/bath and kitchen for the whole floor.
I didn't blame him.

He has been my husband for 25+ years now.

Well my sister moved in with her BF within two months.. and they celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary this year.. but they are definitely an exception.

He moved in because he didn't have anywhere to live. Presumably it was him who suggested that it 'just made sense'?

My ex moved in after we'd been together 3 months. Happy for 10 years. Now an ex!
Hes moved his next relationship on fairly quickly too.

I hope there a no children involved. Two months is too soon to even introduce let alone move in.

If you have DC then this is really not good

If you don't then it's probably wreckless but only you to consider

Utterly bonkers 😱

Does he have a steady, permanent job? Is he paying half of everything?

I was sort living with my bf after 2-3 months (had keys, drawer space) however still had a room at my mothers. I was unhappy at home and looking for a flat share in London at the time but ended up very quickly staying over at bfs instead. It worked out ok - been together 14 years and married 10years. However I had known him/been friends for a year before we got together- so we both knew a fair bit about each other.

I think that it can work, if you are the sort of people who see relationships as serious commitment that both parties need to work hard at even when it's tough.

However, people who move in so quick, perhaps tend to be impulsive and follow their hearts, which isn't necessarily the same characters that are prepared to dig in and truly commit so early in a relationship

I moved in with my husband after about two months. It wasn't intentional. I was still living with my parents (I was 22) and I stayed at his for the first time and just never stayed at "home" again.

We've been together for ten years now. We bought a house together after two/three years. It worked out well for us.

I did, although it was 6 months.

Still together 16 years later.

Well, I did move in with an ex after probably slightly less than two months. I was desperate to get away from a volatile home situation, stemming largely from my mums (at the time) husband who was an abusive alcoholic who turned out to have some very creepy habits which left me and my sisters rather damaged. Funnily enough she moved him in after maybe a few weeks… as someone said upthread, no one falls in love faster than a man in need of somewhere to live. Very poor judgement by mother, and somewhat out of character.
Anyway! After the initial love bombing, romantic, amazing first stage, my ex boyfriend turned out to be emotionally and physically abusive, with very controlling tendencies and left me a shell of who I had been. I left him after 2/2.5 years.
You simply do not know someone at that stage and so it’s complete luck as to whether it turns out okay so of course there’ll be success stories as well as disasters. For the sake of seeing how it goes for a few more months, I wouldn’t risk being choked and punched regularly again myself.

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

This ^^^

Only if he pays towards bills and food.

My partner moved in with me quickly and we're still together but I do think it was too soon.

We're happy but it wasn't easy and we didn't know each other well enough to commit at that stage. We were stupid.

I'm not saying we still wouldn't have ended up together but I do really wish we'd given it at least another 6 months, maybe a year.

I think it's a silly thing to do and would never do it again.

Well I met my DH and we were married within 3 months and we have been married for 22 years and yes I had a child at that time

If there's kids involved then it's truly irresponsible.

Hard to say if he is a freeloader or madly in love...bide your time before making further commitments

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

Hallelujah

In the simplest possible terms.
Op, you have what we call a....
Lodger de Cock.

It’s very individual but it worked for us . DH moved in with me after 3 months. 9 years later we have a 7 year old and have been married 2 1/2 years. Our opinions are all shaped by our experiences. It could work out for you or it could be a disaster.