Moved in after 2 months

[Anxietytakesover]

My partner has moved in with me after 2 months. Has anyone moved in so quickly and everything worked out? He is amazing! I've truly never felt like this about anyone before.

No offence @Bexxe (glad you're happy) but how is that in anyway helpful?

You are offering no practical support or advice, just using the thread as an outlet for your own success stories.

The likelihood is that the OP has made a rash decision, with children, and is looking for advice, confirmation and support.

OP must have some serious doubt due to the fact that they are posting.

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

That literally made me laugh out loud.

When I was young and in an emergency situation and had to leave a violent boyfriend, and had no money, I moved in with a colleague I'd met half a dozen times, and only slept with once, and we got along fine.

It was only meant to be for 2 weeks but I stayed with him for 3 years, and then when I bought my own place, he moved in with me and we lived there together for another year.

How long does a couple have to live together before we can use the term "it worked out"?

We eventually split because he was unfaithful and I threw him out. But that had nothing to do with us moving in together so soon.

My DH moved in with me within 3 weeks of meeting, it was never mentioned, we never had the conversation it just happened! We have now been together 10 years, married for 7, just go with the flow! If it feels right do it!

I guess I am also going to get a scolding from Longbeantime.

The point of sharing is to show that sometimes it DOES work out.

What matters is are there any Red Flags?

I moved in with my husband after two months ... he had moved abroad and j went with him

We are still v happy 16 years later !

However I would add that it was a daft thing to do 😂

Hi @Maskless –

My comments may be combative, but I have seen the disastrous results from people doing this.

Adults making rash decisions, leading to children experiencing a lifetime of pain and insurmountable issues due to the rash choices of their parents.

IS he staying at a family members because he's had a relationship breakdown?

It was a disaster for me
But you've done it now OP
I hope you don't get to a regretful place and want him to leave

I moved in after 2 weeks.
Married 19 years with 2 kids.
It can work out.

Yes, we met abroad and moved in together after 1 month. 8 years later still going strong.

“Cockgoggles” 😂 my life is complete!

Yes, I did! We divorced last week and he’s managed to find a woman with her own home. What a coincidence!

Yes! We are now 3 years down the line are happily married and have a daughter.

@JeSuisPrest

No one falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to stay.

My thoughts exactly

If you don't have kids then crack on. If you do then grow up.

Yes. 20+ years. We were both in similar positions financially. Over 30. I think that made a difference.

[quote Anxietytakesover]@JustKittenAround he was spending a lot of time here, had been staying at a family members, so made sense that he just moved in. I know it's quick but I enjoy spending time with him. He helps around the house etc too[/quote]
Staying at a family member's?

So basically he's moved in with you because he needs a place to live?;you know there's that phrase "No one falls in love faster than a man needing a somewhere to live" right?

Big red flag.

My ex SIL is now a single mum with 3 kids;her ex moved after just a month together,she became a victim of domestic abuse and is now homeless with her children and living with her parents whilst she desperately tries to find somewhere to live.

Not a good idea ,I hope you don't have children.

A lot of negative comments here but moving in/getting hitched super quickly was the norm with our parents/grandparents? Why has this suddenly shifted?

My hairdresser got married after a few months. I’ll never forget what she said: ‘people think relationships are disposable now.’ She was basically saying that getting married forced them to work on issues that nowadays people would just consider ‘red flags’.

After 2 months of meeting and dating we started living together (I’d been staying with him most days anyway) — it’s been 5 years, now married with a baby. I’m sure other people quietly judged from the sidelines at the time but I had never met anyone like my DH and it worked for us.

A lot of negative comments here but moving in/getting hitched super quickly was the norm with our parents/grandparents? Why has this suddenly shifted?

And lots of people from previous generations, usually women, spent their life in miserable relationships having discovered that one of them, usually the man was a miserable, abusive, controlling prick. But they were stuck with him cos they got married ‘super quickly’ and didn’t actually know them. No need for that these days!

@GirlWithAGuitar yes I suppose it all comes down to what one grew up knowing I guess. It’s totally the norm in my family and some of my friends families to move quite quickly as our older generations did and are still happily getting on.

It could go either way. My own story is a tale of caution. Got pregnant about a year in. Besides my daughter he was the worst and most costly mistake of my life in every way

Do either of you have children?

If things are so wonderful and there are no concerns, why did you post?