Not sure if my expectations are off. We’ve been official since January and had a total of 7 ‘full days out’ together - by this I mean like a full day of going to the zoo, our for the day on a walk and pub dinner on way home, to visit another city etc. We have had nearly every weekend since we met of doing something together like a walk for a couple of hours on a Saturday or Sunday, or dinner on a Saturday night either out or at home.
I’ve not met his friends as he’s new to the area (been here a year) and he says his friends are all round the country. Which they are, he talks to them by text every week or so and chats about them. But I’ve mentioned maybe going down to see one of them and he doesn’t seem interested. One close one lives in London with his wife and I said we could go down and see a show and then we could catch up with them. He says he’s too busy at the moment. I’ve said my best friend (who lives 10 min drive from him) had invited us round in summer to have dinner with her partner…he’s still not seemed interested in meeting them or suggested a time he could be free. Same with my family, he says he wants to but not sure when.
It came to a head last night when I said how about we book a Christmas trip to London or another uk city to go to the markets or something. He said he had no idea when he could do that and he’s not that into going away in the same way I am 
he then said I was being bossy for trying to suggest these things and making it all about having things my way…. Every time I’ve suggested something with him I’ve totally left it to him to get back to me and tell me what would suit him time wise and plan wise. He just doesn’t so then I go ahead and suggest something else… which makes me bossy, apparently.
We stay over with each other most nights so see each other a lot but it just feels like he’s not invested?! Whenever we have done things together he’s always gone on about how nice it is. It doesn’t make sense.
This morning I’ve just woken up feeling a bit blue about it all. Am I being dramatic to feel he’s not that arsed? We are both late 30s and I’d like to settle down. He knows this. I’ve had relationships as a teen that felt more like we were a unit …