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Husband Escort Whatsapp

14 replies

LCake · 20/10/2021 20:42

I’m looking for some advice as this is not a question I can speak to family/friends about. My husband has always been 100% trustworthy but recently I’ve been having some very intense dreams of him being unfaithful. This has lead me to become suspicious and a few months i ago I checked his phone. I found nothing including nothing under blocked numbers. I had another crazy dream so I went on there a couple days ago and found two numbers of pretty women blocked on WhatsApp, these were not there a couple months ago when I last checked. I am not proud my paranoia has got the better of me but I also need to know who these women are. I have called both numbers and both are off and have been for the last couple days. I am worried they are escorts and he has video called. Please offer your suggestions and advice on how to proceed.

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Bellyups · 20/10/2021 20:44

What makes you think they’re escorts?

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 20/10/2021 20:45

Can you try to gather some more information. If he's paid escorts won't there be a bank trail?

tootootaataa · 20/10/2021 20:48

Ask them?

Pinkbonbon · 20/10/2021 20:57

I get random messages from pretty women on WhatsApp from time to time. They are just random people fishing. They dont even know if I'm I'm guy or girl. I block them.

Tbh I would think your dreams are more indicative with you desiring more intimacy or more passion in your life as opposed to him cheating.

Unless youre getting bad vibes from him whilst awake too.

Pugmumm · 20/10/2021 21:02

I never get random messages on WhatsApp. You have to add people for that.

I would ask the woman .... can you get their numbers? Your partner will just hide it or cover up so ask them direct. They won't be able to tell your partner as he's blocked them?

Pinkbonbon · 20/10/2021 21:08

@Pugmumm

I never get random messages on WhatsApp. You have to add people for that.

I would ask the woman .... can you get their numbers? Your partner will just hide it or cover up so ask them direct. They won't be able to tell your partner as he's blocked them?

Apparently not because its happened to me at least twice. A chinese lass just a few weeks ago. I barely give out my number so assuming there are ppl fishing that just add random numbers.

DrSbaitso · 20/10/2021 21:10

Sounds likely that they are scams, which often use images of attractive women, and that's why he's blocked them.

DuvetDayIsEveryDay · 20/10/2021 21:28

If you haven't changed the settings, you can message anyone you want on WhatsApp.
I get stupid sex ones a lot.

OP do you have any other suspicions other than dreams.

PooWillyNameChange · 20/10/2021 21:45

If they're escorts then googling their mobile may come up with something but in the absence of absolutely no other evidence I'd be inclined to think it's just dreams and nothing more.

Opentooffers · 20/10/2021 21:45

It's a bit tenuous based on a dream, but if you are dreaming about it because you have picked up on altered behaviour, that is something possibly. Does he work later, or more hours? Is he less reachable? Has he bought new clothing/ aftershave or started a new hobby? It's a bit of a leap without evidence to imagine that a couple of blocked women are prostitutes. Let's say they are, it takes a particular type of man with a particular kind of general attitude towards women who uses prostitutes, do you think he'd be up for that? You know him best, I get you are worried, but you've jumped to a few conclusions so far with little to go on. Watch and observe the bigger picture, is he behaving differently to you?

ErickBroch · 21/10/2021 09:50

Um, you do not have to 'add people' to receive messages on Whatsapp. Anyone can add your phone number to their contacts and send you a message. I have had periods of spam/scam messages and voice calls from people worldwide and in the UK. Also, wrong numbers.

If you are truly thinking your husband is seeing other women, escorts or not, then there must be some underlying distrust you haven't mentioned.

Pastryapronsucks · 21/10/2021 09:59

A male friend of mine got a fishing WhatsApp from a pretty Chinese lady. He is quite vulnerable ATM and ended up engaging with her. He was going to send her some of his redundancy money to invest, fortunately he saw sense and questioned her.

KylieKoKo · 21/10/2021 10:06

Unless I'm missing something you've made a huge leap here. I occasionally get spak WhatsApp from random numbers and I just block them. If my boyfriend went through my phone and saw them and then deduced that I must be cheating on him with escorts I'd be horrified!

There must be something else going on for you to be so worried about this.

Pugmumm · 21/10/2021 11:19

@Pinkbonbon ah that's really strange I've never had that....

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