Dumped by text

[Youme]

Name changed and can't believe I'm writing this. Been with boyfriend for over a year. Things have been a little rocky at times but we agreed to work on these issues together and recently things have been going very well. We had a very heated discussion on the phone last night, he said something very hurtful at one point and I got very upset and hung up on the phone. I rang him back a while later and he wouldn't pick up. Instead he sent me a text over WhatsApp saying he can't do this anymore, take care and goodbye.

I can't believe it. We did have some issues but I didn't think enough to split up over. We were away on holiday recently and had a lovely time. He met my parents just 2 weeks ago. I don't understand how he can just switch. I'm in shock, seems so extreme, such a horrible way to end things without a proper explanation. We are both in our 40s btw so would expect more. I've tried ringing him since and no answer. I don't know what to do, feel absolutely sick today.

Why throw away perfectly usable items? Just take it all to an op shop.

It’s hard but don’t use his belongings as a way to try & create contact. Even if you dropped them at his house, why would you ask if you should ring the bell?

He said he doesn’t want them, so get rid of them! No need to be wasteful & throw them away.

To be honest the fact he is telling you to throw them indicates it’s over, or he would be trying to engineer a meet up to exchange said items.

Yeah I get it, he ended it and he doesn't want to be with me.

But it feels very wrong to act like a jilted lover. I'm not using his things to contact him, just want to return them in some way without contacting him. I think deep down he must want them. Who knows though. I also remembered he has some bigger things of mine which he has obviously forgotten about too. How do I get those back? Or now am I meant to accept I won't get them back because he has ended it via text? What has the world come to when people have had a relationship together and it all ends over a text message. Last week he was telling me he loved me and now that's it forever?!

I've stayed in contact (sporadically at least) with other exes so this is all just new and odd to me. He wasn't a player or anything like that but yes he had problems expressing his emotions and this is how it's ended.

Have you got a friend who could mediate? Ask for the rest of your stuff and take his back when collecting it? Best to avoid any direct contact I would imagine.

Hi, op.

How are things for you now, a year on? 🌺