Just wanted to ask for other people's opinions as I'm not sure if it's me or him!
Been with bf for just over a year, enjoy his company and when it's good it's really good but there's been a few problems lately and last night seemed to be the straw that broke the camels back. Now it's the morning I'm doubting myself and wondering if it's me being unreasonable?
Sunday night bf messages me and says he's thinking about bringing back a takeaway Tuesday night as he'll be working near our fav restaurant and am I interested in coming round to share it. I said yes, that sounds great and we discuss what we'll have.
I've just started a new job, working longer hours and obviously because it's different there's a lot to learn which is exhausting.
Yesterday I'm in my last meeting when everyone starts discussing what they're having for dinner. I initially think, oh no I have nothing in, I'm going to have to stop at the supermarket when I just want to get home but then remember bf is getting us takeaway - woohoo!
I get home, message him that I'm back and ask what time he'll be ready for me to come over. No reply for 2 hours, because as I later find out he's in the pub. Its gets to past the time we'd usually meet and eat when he finally answers " Ha - I'm already home! No Chinese tonight."
I'm totally pissed off! No apology although 40 mins later he messages again to say he'll bring one back tomorrow night instead. It's now late, I'm starving and because I was expecting the takeaway I put off going shopping so have nothing in. I'm tired, hungry and end up just eating various bits of crap that I find in the fridge and cupboards and just thought this is it for us. There's been similar incidents before when he's changed our dinner plans on the same day because he's in the pub.
But now woken up and wonder if I'm acting like a spoilt child? It's not his responsibility to provide me with food. It was my decision not to go to the supermarket because I was so tired and it's not his fault I'm so tired at the moment.
However I just feel that it's just so thoughtless, to arrange to get a takeaway,just not bother and not tell me until its late.
What does everyone think?
Oh and before everyone starts - I live in a rural area where the nearest takeaway is 30 mins away and none of them deliver so I couldn't just order my own when he finally messaged back that he hadn't got the takeaway!