Rude "famous people"

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We have a famous designer at my kid's school, born to a very wealthy family. Her kids are nice
She can be very unfriendly but inconsistently so - will often blank people one day and be friendly the next. Acts quite haughtily with the teachers. At times very abrupt.
She doesn't have to be friends with us civilians - that I fully understand. But what's with the rude behaviour? What's going on there? The school mums are a pretty innocuous bunch and I'd like to think we are friendly and welcoming.

I'm broken hearted to hear about King Marcus 😢

Not everyone wants to "make friends".

Some of us are just very private and busy people who have our own agenda of things we need to get through in a day. We dont want to chat to neighbours over the garden fence, take in parcels, or get involved in day to day trivia.

So we dont answer the door when our ring doorbell shows its a time waster like a sales person, collector or whingy neighbour. We cultivate a "busy busy must get on" air and a clipped "morning" tone when we do pass you in the street.

Its not that we hate you, just that you dont merit space in or add value to our particular social world.

I used to be a Runner in film/tv so you'd bump into lots of high and low level 'slebs' but learn not to take much notice either way.

Tom Hollander - "don't you know who I am"? to a Receptionist when she asked him his name.

Mike Leigh - ungrateful, rude, sarcastic and just a bit of a knob.

And - for a bit of balance - a couple who were genuinely decent, down-to-earth people; Donal MacIntyre, Chico Slimani and Danny Dyer!

An award winning actor has a child at my dS’s school. He always has sunglasses and a hat on. He is a left wing activist and outspoken critic of capitalism but his child is at a very traditional private school

so many cases of contrasting opinions of a specific celeb - perhaps shows that people's perceptions vary and anyway that you can't expect people to on their best behaviour to everyone all the time.

I was in Waitrose just before covid hit unloading my mini trolley that did contain loo roll and the last item sanitary pads. The smiley check out girl smiled to the person behind me and said “haven’t seen you for a while”. He replied “no I’ve been in LA”.

I turned to look and saw Noel Gallagher smile at her and then me as he put his sour dough bread and bits from his basket on the conveyor belt next to my Always Ultra Nights. I packed quickly and left but thought what a nice man.

@Pixxie7

I think a lot of famous people think they are special I think the problem is they only have to appear on the tv and they think they are celebrities. I don’t think we meet the real celebrities.

I think it’s more that people expect something different than an average person. I’m very glad that I don’t judged on my friendliness to strangers on the street/at the school gate. I seem confident but get shy in social situations. I’m sure there are plenty of famous people who also get shy. Or even, heaven forbid have a grumpy day. Thankfully no one documents my grumpy moments (except perhaps my children who like to remind me of the last time I was grumpy!)

I met Peter Andre and Katie years ago in Brighton…didn’t have a clue who they were …we just had a chat at the cash point trying to work out how we would get change for parking..just normal people!

Another one for grumpy Martin Freeman. Cumberbatch was lovely to me though.

Van Morrison is a grumpy old man. Surrounded by gorgeous young women and growls at anyone that doesn’t fawn over him.

Dh works with a few mentioned on this thread and has had only good interactions.

Its not that we hate you, just that you dont merit space in or add value to our particular social world.

Well with that superior attitude you're never going to know, are you?

I've met Simon Cowell in Hamleys once. We both started at the top floor and made our way down so saw each other a lot. He was incredibly friendly and approachable. I think some days celebrities are 'on ' and other days they're not - just no one will remember if I'm rude.

I'm so glad I'm not famous. I'm relatively shy and private, and have resting bitch face even when I'm perfectly content.

It must be really tough if your face is well known but you haven't actively sought out fame, and aren't particularly extraverted. Everyone would put me down as grumpy and unfriendly too, even though I'm not.

I sat at the next table to LH once at an awards ceremony. He was in his own and and kept looking over at us curiously. I pretended I didn’t know who he was as he obviously thought we’d be fawning Over him and asking for autographs. I have never liked him much . Don’t find him funny.

@thefirstmrsrochester I saw Tony Hadley a few years ago in a pub near where he was doing a gig. He was being pestered to death by drunks and was pleasant enough, letting them have selfies with him etc but then people started taking it too far and he started saying no which people didn't take well to.
He kept catching my eye and rolling his eyes when he was approached each time. Poor bloke looked like he couldn't wait to get out of there. I felt really sorry for him as it was getting quite rowdy.

One celebrity who I thought would be full of himself, was actually the opposite and rather friendly, Hugh Grant.

I think you’ve got to turn this round on it’s head, how many of us would react well to being interrupted by strangers as we go about our daily lives.
Some of these people are encountered whilst they are working and other people’s livelihoods depend on them being prepared and they are concentrating on the job in hand.
Others are encountered whilst they are getting on with their daily lives, shopping, picking the kids up, going out for a meal. These can all be disrupted by well meaning people.but imagine it happens several times a day, it would get wearing.
And as for Marcus Rashford . He is doing amazing things for poor children so that’s all that counts really.

I once was supposed to have a meeting with a very famous elderly "actress" who arrived an hour and a half late.
The next day her publicity person, who I knew well, told me she was late because the taxi that was sent for her had an Asian driver and she refused to go anywhere until a white driver turned up.
I gave despised her ever since.

Both people I know who have met Lenny Henry said he is incredibly rude. One friend saw him and Dawn French in the Groucho and they were vile to the waiting staff, actually snapping fingers at them.

I know someone who did a bit of driving for Keira Knightley and she was absolutely lovely, kind and generous.

I actually know Hugh vaguely and he’s a grumpy sod. Sometimes perfectly affable. Depends what kind of mood he’s in.

Bono and the Edge's dc went to the same school as mine, both very ordinary, kept themselves to themselves but always pleasant and polite. They didn't wear fancy clothes or drive flash cars, they seemed just like everyone else. My friend was at Glastonbury and was on the same stage as Marty Pellow. (She is in a band but not famous, glastonbury was a huge deal for them) She said he was lovely, especially when he saw they were nervous, he stood at the side of the stage during her set, clapping and giving the thumbs up. He posed for pictures with them afterwards too.

I think the knobby ones though are the ones that are rude in their work though . There’s a load of crew, office staff and support people whether you’re an actor, singer, presenter etc. If those people think you’re a knob you probably are.

Anyone can be nice on occasion especially if it’s to your audience/fans for 2 minutes.

I’ve met michael sheen more than once through various things and he has always been kind and polite. Comes across as very interested in others. Tim Minchin is the same.

My dad met Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton twice. He said burton was a bit aloof but Elizabeth Taylor was absolutely charming and really engaging

I've met Michael Gove in a work setting and like PPs my experience of him was that he was very charming and polite.

Just remembered, years ago my dh was staying in a hotel in Berlin with his work crowd and the singer from A-ha was there. Dh said he was great craic, by the end of the evening he was playing the piano while they all had a sing song. My dd met Justin Timberlake in a club in LA a few years ago, she said he was lovely, he invited her and her friends into the VIP area and bought them drinks. Didn't hit on them or anything like that, was just friendly and chatty.