Do you think you can be single for so long, relationships are just out of reach?

[danglyearrings9]

Just that really. I can't imagine myself in a relationship. I look at everyone around me who are paired up and feel completely bewildered at how they managed to do it all.

@GreenLunchBox

Are you still reading this thread *@danglyearrings9*?

How old are you, and what is your stage in life in terms of children and career? I think this is relevant.

I'm 44 and divorced 10 years ago with two kids, one of which is now at uni.

When I first got divorced I felt bereft and like I needed a relationship. I got into a few, including a long one in which we bought a house together. I ended up getting rid of him and bought him out and as a result am in an amazing house that I wouldn't have been in if I hadn't got into that relationship.

For the first time in my life, I am very happy with being single. I have no desire to be in a relationship. I am very happy with where I am in life and have a great life. Maybe I'm perimenopausal and so don't have that desire for a relationship because of that. My ex husband is fantastic, so I still have a male presence and input with the kids and around my house. If I didn't have that my attitude might be very different. I'm very comfortable financially and love my career, so that helps too. When I think of companionship, I don't feel like I ever want to live with a man again. At the moment I get emotional fulfilment from my kids, my ex husband and my friends. That might change as the kids grow up even more, but for now a relationship is not something I am even remotely interested in.

Very refreshing to read! And a very good point about being financially independent...

Thank you @zonkyzonky ☺️

@GreenLunchBox

Are you still reading this thread *@danglyearrings9*?

How old are you, and what is your stage in life in terms of children and career? I think this is relevant.

I'm 44 and divorced 10 years ago with two kids, one of which is now at uni.

When I first got divorced I felt bereft and like I needed a relationship. I got into a few, including a long one in which we bought a house together. I ended up getting rid of him and bought him out and as a result am in an amazing house that I wouldn't have been in if I hadn't got into that relationship.

For the first time in my life, I am very happy with being single. I have no desire to be in a relationship. I am very happy with where I am in life and have a great life. Maybe I'm perimenopausal and so don't have that desire for a relationship because of that. My ex husband is fantastic, so I still have a male presence and input with the kids and around my house. If I didn't have that my attitude might be very different. I'm very comfortable financially and love my career, so that helps too. When I think of companionship, I don't feel like I ever want to live with a man again. At the moment I get emotional fulfilment from my kids, my ex husband and my friends. That might change as the kids grow up even more, but for now a relationship is not something I am even remotely interested in.

Is your ex-husband single?

If he has matured, got wiser, and changed for the better would you ever consider being together again if he is such a good dad and so good emotionally with you (even in your thoughts)?