I live with my partner. Over lockdown he has become extremely codependent and I am finding it hard.
He likes us both to work in the same room (we both wfh and always have done). He then has me to constantly talk to which I find draining. In the evening when he then wants to "hang out" watching films and so on I am kind of ...done.
He wants to go everywhere together at all times. The last few months he has got really stroppy if I won't go for a walk / to the shop with him. Recently he has started going by himself but it really seems to aggravate him.
He is very gregarious and outgoing, I am not. I am the kind of person that needs to recharge and so on. We have been together quite a few years so he knows this.
Everything I suggest gets shot down. Doing out the spare room where we live so it can be an office for one of us. Moving to somewhere with more space.
He got a new job over lockdown which involves being online talking to a group of people on and off all day. I thought this would help because he is topping up on the contact that I really don't need tbh. I'm sorry if I sound like a miserable arse, I probably am, I perk up in company btw and I do love spending time with my bf. I kind of feel sad in the evening because rather than being ready to spend time together I just want to get away. I've tried to encourage him to go out and socialise without me there but he refuses.
When I bring this up he says I'm complaining that he loves me and wants my company which makes me feel like shit.
How can I get it across that he needs more social contact than me and I can't provide all of it.
Of course over lock down we were on our own, and tbh we got on great. I just feel like now I need a bit more me time. That doesn't mean he should be sat on his own in silence when he wants company, obviously.