Paying for hotel for boyfriends birthday ...too much?

[nataliesalybh]

We have been together 4 months.
It's his birthday in 5 weeks.
I've bought him a couple of gifts and I've paid for a hotel in London for two nights (£160)
I've told him I will pay for dinner one night too.

Is this okay?
Too much ?
Enough ?

@Simplelobsterhat

Amazed at how old school and sexist some of the views on this thread are.... if you will enjoy the weekend away too and can afford it, what's the big deal? Why can't woman make a fuss of she man in the exciting new phase of a relationship? And I don't think the meal even comes into it if it's your turn to pay after he did this time. I can kind of see people's points about planning 5 weeks ahead of time after 4 months being maybe a bit presumptuous, but you know how things are going between you.

I am however interested in why you asked. You've already told him about it so it's decided. Why are you questioning it now? Did he say something? I guess you could maybe return one present if he doesn't know about them yet if you are worried.

Because the women are the ones all angst ridden on MN or dissecting the relationship to their mates. If it goes Pete Tong rather the bloke have risked it.

The Op isn’t going to win him over by spending a tonne. A hotel room is obvious and a bit needy.

Not too much at all. As long as your not stretching yourself.
I wouldn't give it a second thought. Go and enjoy it.

@nataliesalybh

Yeah I can afford too,I've worked it out so it's after my pay day. I wasn't sure if it was too much or not as my birthday is in December and we have nothing planned for that

If you're planning it so it coincides with payday, then you probably can't comfortably afford it.