Not sure relationship will progress

[confusedpersoninlife]

We are both late 30s and have been together two years. We live separately and there's no talk of the future. This is weird, right?

@FlowerArranger

What is stopping you from telling him "this isn't working for me - I do not want to see you anymore".

I think what's stopping the Op from leaving him is probably a mix of inertia and panic of having to go back on the dating apps and starting the dreaded process all over again ...this is or some form of reliance is what keeps a lot of women 'psychologically trapped'

After two years, we were married with a new baby. We both decided that neither of us (mid-late 30's) were getting any younger, so we might as well get a shift on.

I can't agree that you know within 6-12 months if you want to marry someone. I've had 2 ex's where at that stage I'd have happily thought this was it for life, then after 12/18 months I couldn't stand them. My r'ship with DH was a slow burner because of our individual experiences, but absolutely the right thing to do. I have friends who were certain at 12 months and got married and are now divorcing.

Everyone is different and every relationship is different. However if you feel you're in completely different places. or you can't discuss it honestly, then that isn't a good sign.

I have tried breaking it off a number of times but he really doesn't want to break up

Who put him in charge of your life? If you want to break it off, you can break it off.

@confusedpersoninlife

Hi op, how are you getting on? What did you decide to do in the end (if anything)?