I really don’t want to do this but it would make DH happy. WWYD?

[Seventimesaday]

Last night I mentioned, just as part of a much longer conversation, that my friend was going to see Genesis in concert.
My husband got up this morning and decided he really wants to go.
I said no problem, go with your mate or on your own. But he only wants to go with me.
Reasons I don't want to go include…..

I don’t like Genesis. I couldn't name one song of theirs. I would recognise them if you told me though.

The venues we could pick from are an hours drive from us. I either rush to get there after work, or go on my day off and get around 5 hours sleep before going to work the next day.

I hate, hate, hate being in a crowd of people. Being in a building with thousands of other people would be my worst nightmare.

The arenas I have been to previously have seemed very steep, in terms of steps. I am just getting over a serious leg injury and am worried about not being given enough time/ space to go slowly up and down stairs in a crowd.

The tickets are £150 each. We can afford it, but like I said, I don’t like the music anyway.

DH wouldn’t even have thought about going if I hadn’t mentioned it!

So, do I suck it up and go to make him happy?

Oh and 80% of the excuses above are the reasons what I have not been to see Queen whose music I love.

Oh, also Take That, and but that was pretty boring.

I think it's normal to compromise sometimes and do things you don't really want to do - but in this case, you don't like the band, you don't like crowds, you have an injury, it's quite a long drive, and you'll be heading to work on very little sleep. And it's £150!

It's not as if it's a Saturday night and you have nothing better to do, and can have a lie in on Sunday.

There's a time and place for compromise, but this isn't it.

I think its your leg injury really thats got to be priority there isnt a lot of room btween rows they dont let you stand in the aisle and theres alot of stairs to go up and down

Does he always need a baby sitter to socialise?

My partner saw Genesis at Manchester on Saturday night, happily went on his own...I'm not a fan, like a couple of their songs but no way on Earth would I have paid £130 to see them! I was quite shocked when I realised that was what he had paid!

He enjoyed it, but I know where he was sitting is extremely steep so even if I liked the band I still wouldn't have gone (physically disabled).

Considering he said no to you, you are well in your rights to do the same.

Pay for the friend to go a a treat for DH

@SeaToSki

Pay for the friend to go a a treat for DH

Don't do this.

He wouldn't go with you, why should you treat him?

Its not your job to pay for him and a friend to have a night out, if he wants to he can do that himself.

I went to the Manchester gig on Saturday. It was fucking BRILLIANT.
I Would definitely go if i was you.

Well….fate intervened.
He came down with a tummy bug. This meant we wouldn’t have been able to book for Leeds anyway, which is this week.
He is now leaving it until the last minute to decide whether to go to Liverpool on his own next week, there are only single tickets left now, so we wouldn’t be able to sit together anyway.

He has seen the Manchester concert on You Tube now (is it the full thing? I’m not sure) and he is less bothered about me going. His reasons for wanting to take me is because when he has been previously, they put on spectacular shows with lights and special effects (apparently) and that is what he wanted me to see. This concert is more ‘sedate’ understandably because Phil isn’t too good, so he is now only going for the music rather than the experience.

He understands why I don’t want to sit still for 2 hours and why I am reluctant to walk up and down the steep stairs and he suggested he goes to this on his own and we pick something next year to go to together.
I’m currently looking at Queen with Adam Lambert as a possibility, which we will both love.

I hate, hate, hate being in a crowd of people. Being in a building with thousands of other people would be my worst nightmare.

Then he is dreadfully unreasonable.
Why does he feel so incapable of going without you, that he is prepared to make you go through a nightmare experience?

Nope. For the same reasons I don't accompany him to football matches - expense & boredom. You're happy to wave him off with a mate. He's being unreasonable.