Is it odd for her not the be able to talk on the phone?

[nettyinthekitchen]

So if a man is dating a woman for say two months and he wants to chat on the phone instead of text, is it odd if she says she can't or won't ?
She says she doesn't like talking in the phone.

Yes of course it’s odd!! Have you ever seen her or chatted to her before?

Seems strange after two months to not want to speak rather than text. Is she planning on meeting him in the flesh one day or is this just a penpal situation?

If you'd met - it's a bit odd.
If you'd not met - it's not as odd.

I hate using the phone too tho, I avoid it as much as I can.

Catfish would be my first thought.

I’m more of a tester than talker tbh so nope.

I’m assuming this is real in person dating..?

*texter

Less and less people are happy chatting on the phone sadly! Do you see her regularly in the flesh?

I don't think it's odd as I prefer text over spoken calls, that said, if someone rings or asks for a call I will take a call.

If someone refused a call every single time (I wouldn't expect someone to take a call if they were at work, out with friends or family etc), then yes I would think that's odd. I would even suspect they weren't single and were sat texting whilst their partner was sat a few foot away

Depends if they’ve ever met in real life or not. I’m guessing they have, given that you’ve said ‘dating’, in which case it’s a bit weird but not the end of the world. If they haven’t met, then it probably means the person isn’t who they claim to be...

Aye, that's odd.

Yes odd. I don't like talking on the phone but I do and usually answer phone calls unless I don't recognise a number. Have you met this person in real life?

Have met irl but wondering if she is married ....

It's weird if she says she can't - not so weird if she says she doesn't want to in my opinion.

I personally hate talking on the phone (although I am partially deaf so struggle which doesn't help) - I much prefer either meeting in person or texting. Luckily my partner also prefers texting so we've always done that right from the start if we weren't actually together

@nettyinthekitchen

Have met irl but wondering if she is married ....

I assume her social media can answer that.

Do you have any other reason to think this?

Maybe she lives with parents or renting a room and doesn’t want anyone to hear her conversations? How old is she? Does she not want to talk over phone in particular times or just never ever?

Lots of people have anxiety about talking on the phone and prefer face to face or texts.

I'd think she's not that into you possibly I know I don't like talking on the phone to people I'm not keen on.

I hate talking on the phone and usually say no. I leave voice messages, photos, videos etc so it is obvious I am real person. But I really hate phone chatting. Some people have found this odd or frustrating though.

I hate talking on the phone. When I started dating my boyfriend last year I told him I preferred texting. So we did that, lots. Then lockdown happened and we weren't allowed to see each other so after a while I decided we could talk on the phone. We still do sometimes, although I still find it slightly awkward.

Also I have teenagers so they're always lurking around the house so it's hard to have a private phone conversation. Does she have kids?

Yes . Teens but I'm
Sure she could chat when they are in their rooms. No sign of husband on social media but lots and f her children

Maybe she hasn’t told her kids she’s dating…

Teens can have very sharp hearing, especially perhaps if they realise their mother could be having an 'interesting' conversation! My friends wanted to keep in touch by phone or video chat during lockdown and I felt I had to watch what I said compared to how I would talk to them face to face, as my teens could have well overheard. However, she could tell you that if it was the case.

Ah - earwigging teenagers would be my guess then.

Ok
Thanks

Kids about or married / living with someone