Is it odd for her not the be able to talk on the phone?

[nettyinthekitchen]

So if a man is dating a woman for say two months and he wants to chat on the phone instead of text, is it odd if she says she can't or won't ?
She says she doesn't like talking in the phone.

My first thought was married.

Hate calls. Love messaging and love being in person. It's not shyness at all... just hate phones. Think it's because the conversation is immediate and instant and needs lots of attention but without body language and someones presence.

Possibly makes sense with the teenagers listening in the background. Do you mean never talk on the phone at all so not even a 'yes let's meet at X at X time see you then bye' or just won't have a general chat? If it's the latter I would just say it's probably makes sense. If she won't even pick up at all I would be abit suspicious.

No talk whatsoever

Definitely suspicious. Sorry xx

I really struggle to talk on the phone, it makes me really anxious. If someone rings me I will talk all the while feeling like I'm going to vomit, but if someone said they'd like to talk on the phone I may well put them off rather than face that anxiety. I wouldn't say my anxieties normal, but I know a couple of people who have the same anxieties so I don't think it's really rare.

I'm not that keen on talking on the phone tbh, it's just a bit staggered

Imo no, I hate phone calls and much prefer to text

I’ll do anything to get out of speaking on the phone, I absolutely loathe it. I’m not particularly shy and I’m quite chatty in person but for some reason I get really embarrassed on the phone. I need to know someone really well before I can chat without feeling uncomfortable. I would literally just text if I could

After ~25 years working in call centres, I'd do almost anything to avoid a phone conversation.

This does sound a bit suspicious though, sorry.

Are you both women - could she be closeted to her children?

How much money have you sent her?

Be careful.

Hmmm I hate talking on the phone and know loads of others who do too. Something people used to have to tolerate but no longer need to in the age of web chats for businesses and various messaging apps for friends where you can add pictures and videos . Not sure it's that weird. I've met plenty dates from OLD that I've never had a phone convo with and they've not suggested it either so it's definitely not unusual

I don’t like talking on the phone when I’m early dating when Noddy’s friends (big ears) are in the house.

Having said that, I do move towards it once my teens know I’m seeing someone. Just not at the beginning.

I’m definitely not attached. It’s just hard to talk when teens are around and not have them twig.

Neither is wrong for having their particular communication preference but if neither is willing to compromise, then you’d think they would reconsider their compatibility.

Labelling either party as odd, is pointless.

My dd hates speaking on the phone, she'll do video chat at a pinch. Shes autistic and finds she needs facial expressions to interpret conversations beyond the mundane

Some people don't like to speak on the phone. Other than a 'I'm lost, where is the restaurant?' call, I can't think of a time when dh and I spoke on the phone when we were dating just for a chat. We were also long distance living in different countries for two years. We never called each other. I just hate talking on the phone. I avoid it for work too. I avoid it with friends. We chatted online and messaged each other in between times when we were together. A guy who insisted on regular phone chats would definitely put me off.

@Notashandyta

Less and less people are happy chatting on the phone sadly! Do you see her regularly in the flesh?

Why is it sad? What's important about chatting on the phone?

Maybe she hasn't told her children about you yet so doesn't want them to over hear your conversations.

You’re asking the wrong audience. On here it’s quite common not to answer your door or phone at all.

It’s totally normal to talk on the phone. It’s hardly like you’ve asked her for to pole dance on FaceTime

So either she’s attached or she has mental health issues like anxiety.

@Bluntness100

You’re asking the wrong audience. On here it’s quite common not to answer your door or phone at all.

It’s totally normal to talk on the phone. It’s hardly like you’ve asked her for to pole dance on FaceTime

So either she’s attached or she has mental health issues like anxiety.

Not me. I don’t talk to a new man who I’m either lining up to date or have only gone on one or two dates with when my kids are around. Because I’m a responsible parent and don’t want my kids to know if it’s only going to be a one or two date thing.

Have you ever been a single parent trying to date responsibly?

I'm far more comfortable texting than talking on the phone unless I know someone really really well, or it's a quick informational call ie 'sorry I'm running late but I'll be there ASAP' rather than talking for the sake of talking.

This is despite my working in a job where I was on the phone all day every day for years.

I wouldn't overthink it.

I loathe talking on the phone.

@Bluntness100

You’re asking the wrong audience. On here it’s quite common not to answer your door or phone at all.

It’s totally normal to talk on the phone. It’s hardly like you’ve asked her for to pole dance on FaceTime

So either she’s attached or she has mental health issues like anxiety.

Or, you know, personal preference.

@Bluntness100 it is SENSIBLE and being a good parent not to have your kids know every flash in the pan bloke you might be dating.

Wise up.

@SkiingIsHeaven

How much money have you sent her?

Be careful.

Huh? Where has OP said he has sent money?

OP
It's been 2 months. She probably hasn't told her children about you yet. Which is fine, because it's been 2 months