Men - what would you do if you received this text

[dedonde]

So assuming you were single obviously… if you had hooked up with someone 2 weeks ago that you met at a party and weren’t that fussed about seeing them again but then received a text saying ‘round 2 this weekend?’

Would you go even if you weren’t that keen just for the sex?

I want to send this to a guy but unsure how he will respond and terrified of him saying no

@sammylady37

You've only got to read some if these replies to see that slut shaming is alive and well, sadly

Yes. It’s sad to see it, honestly. I’m amazed we haven’t yet had the ‘cool girls’ or ‘handmaidens’ insults thrown though. Or maybe we have, I’ve read so many threads today they’re blending into one!

Men will slut shame you. We are realistic. I think no less of OP nor am I ‘shaming her’.

The patriarchy have really bloody done a blinder if you think we are the unfeminist ones for asking OP to put the brakes on inviting a man in her vagina who is NOT INTERESTED IN HER. If she was really so chill she wouldn’t be on MN posting about it 🤡

If she wants to work on her self esteem issues, which she admits to having, and still wants a casual thing- she could hop on tinder and find a nice hot shaggable bloke on her terms, rather than pining over a man who is not interested in her.

You only hooked up. Send the text and see what happens. If he says no (he won't), there's a bazillion more penises in the sea that will say yes. Your self esteem is safe.

Ignore anyone that's telling you you're being too forward. Enjoy

@thumpingrug

You could at least offer to buy dinner, or get him a bunch of flowers first. He may have some feelings.

it’s a bit of an ick message

Men will slut shame you. We are realistic. I think no less of OP nor am I ‘shaming her’

You think women don’t slut shame other women? And that many of the comments here aren’t exactly that? Lmao.

@dedonde

So assuming you were single obviously… if you had hooked up with someone 2 weeks ago that you met at a party and weren’t that fussed about seeing them again but then received a text saying ‘round 2 this weekend?’

Would you go even if you weren’t that keen just for the sex?

I want to send this to a guy but unsure how he will respond and terrified of him saying no

If I were single and wanted sex and didn't have a better offer, then yes, I'd go.

If I didn't fancy you at all, then I wouldn't have "hooked up" with you two weeks earlier.

What happened then?

You can't win with Mumsnet sometimes .
Had you said you were offering to meet him for drinks first , you would have been told you were beating around the bush and should get to the point . You get to the point , you're called desperate .
If all you truely want is another shag then send the text but you must be in a mindframe to truely not care about the reply .
Those saying 'go find someone on Tinder ' are not being realistic at all - there are so many hurdles to face even for casual sex. Finding someone you're attracted to , feel safe with, have good sexual chemistry with , who can please you in bed isnt as simple as swiping on and fucking the first attractive guy you match with. Some have such awful personalities that you can't see past those traits even just to sleep with them , and they suddenly aren't so attractive . Some are flaky . Some are creepy. It's a minefield . The op shouldn't be shamed for wanting to have sex with the same person twice - she wants sex and it's a safe bet for her so it's actually perfectly understandable .

For anyone wondering - I texted him asking if he fancied getting a drink and had no response. Don’t actually feel too bad… at least I know now and can move on! Thanks for all your advice anyway

Oh well @dedonde, his loss!

Ding ding ding!

Of the ONS’s I had many years ago, I didn’t contact them again, it was purely sex that night and nothing else.
Would a FWB/FB work better for you?

If the sex had been great, it's unlikely he would have blanked you like he did.

Find better sex somewhere else.