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Seriously, does it have to be this hard?!

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EL8888 · 15/09/2021 16:58

In the middle of buying a house with my fiancé and he’s recently started working from from home. He’s driving me insane! The mess, the bellowing down the phone, the lack of organisation with the move, annoying coffee making rituals etc etc. The latest revelation this afternoon, is last night he threw away a box of my documents. He decided they were recycling (they weren’t) and they weren’t in the recycling box. The bin men are long gone. I don’t even know what was in it, some financial documents, my mothers power of attorney? The dining room is where we agreed to gather packing boxes and that’s where it was. Part of me wonders do l want the rest of my life to be like this? The prompting and reminding, sorting out of fuck ups etc. Please note these is part of a wider pattern of scattiness, losing things, breaking things etc. His things are mysteriously always fine

OP posts:
Spiindoctor · 21/09/2021 05:12

He's got cold feet and is taking it out on you rather than talking about it.

CrisisManagement · 21/09/2021 05:24

@SoundBar

The fact he didn't even apologise and has doubled down on him being in the right to bin your stuff is unforgivable IMO.

What other examples do you have of him doing something that upsets you and then refusing to apologise / gaslighting you into believing it's your own fault and not his?

Exactly. It's the lack of apology that is a problem. If it was a genuine mistake (although not sure how it could be as anyone with an ounce of sense would see that official documents are not recycling) he would be deeply, deeply apologetic.

For comparison, I accidentally recycled a box of DH's new batteries, thinking they were the ones that had already been used. I apologised profusely to DH, implemented a new recycling system so that it didn't happen again and offered to replace them.

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