Dont know if this is a reason to leave

[Mary93]

Hey loveys just need some advice.. Feel so down right now.. Dc are asleep so im alone n feeling shit again

So recently me and my husband split for around 3 month due to him never communicating with me. He returns home from work quite late and by that time im actually asleep or ready for bed

I told him as we don't see eachother much i would like him to communicate with me in the day even just once.. He did say he would but he actually hasnt made any effort i still call him because i miss him in the day etc.. I do feel needy but i feel like we don't speak much.

I feel very lonely in our marriage, i love him alot but very empty. I do everything in the house n kids..

What do u think i should do.
I feel like leaving again but its really eating me up. I dont know what to do i have 2 dcs i dont want to break our family

It's hard to know from your posts op, but on its own, not calling your DP during the working day is quite normal. I understand that if your working day is very long or you both work shifts that clash then you have to talk during the working day if you're going to communicate at all.

Is it that he doesn't want to talk any time? (ie forgetting the messaging from work thing). Are there times when you're both at home but he ignores you?

I'm just trying to understand if this is a case of busy lives and not enough time to engage / you've taken that to heart and blamed him / he's now on the defensive OR is he not communicating because he doesn't want to and has checked out.

From pp comments it looks like you might have posted before and there's other stuff, in which case I'd say if you're unhappy that's a good reason to leave.

Sorry to be blunt but it sounds like the reason he doesn't want to split is because of all the skivvy work you do for him that he doesn't want to do himself plus you paying for things that he would have to pay for himself.

He goes and comes whenever. Comes home to a hot meal, clean house, clothes and you paying the bills.

What do you get from the marriage? What does he do for you?

You can leave for any reason.