Dating a man with less money

[Fireworksandsparks]

I know some probably won’t like/agree with this post but…
What are people’s thoughts on this? I own my own property, have savings and enough for a good night out once or twice a month. I’m far from rich but have enough and feel relatively secure. I also have a teenage dd at home.
I’ve met someone who despite having had a well paid career until recently lives in a sparsely decorated , dated 1 bed flat with a mortgage. On our first proper dinner date, he made a comment about not doing this too often ( it had just been a few pub lunches before), but he did pay. I’d paid the previous time. I’m slightly confused about why things are like this , unless he’s just very tight. He has no children and we’re both late 40’s.
He rarely has much of an idea about where to go, or suggests something and then doesn’t mention it again.
Despite this, there is a big connection between us but I’m not sure if this is really for the long term.
Any thoughts?

The sparsely decorated dated flat and reluctance to spend money on eating out etc would put me off because they’re indications that we wouldn’t agree on lifestyle decisions. It’s all very well saying he might not be materialistic hence the flat, but what happens if the time comes to share a home and he’s not interested in creating the sort of environment you’d want? Eating out, holidays etc. Anyway if he’s late 40s, single and has a decent job and it looks like there are money issues he’s either tight or has a problem of some sort. Nope.

@gannett
Interested to know why my opinion has touched a very big nerve with you?
The whole point of MN is to have a wide range of opinions.

I'd be interested to know what your opinion is about OP's actual question?

[quote Notmoresugar]@gannett
Interested to know why my opinion has touched a very big nerve with you?
The whole point of MN is to have a wide range of opinions.

I'd be interested to know what your opinion is about OP's actual question?[/quote]
Yes, and my opinion is that I don't respect anyone who sneers that people who don't show off with material things are "wasters".

My opinion on the problem is that it's part 948739329 on the relationships board of "well why don't you ask him with your words and see what he says, how are we supposed to know".

Gambling, drugs?

@Hulmeert

I'd imagine the advice would be very different if it was a man worrying about dating a woman with less money...

You mean like the advice is so much different for men than for women when they are saying they want a woman wayyyy younger ( like 20 plus yrs ) on men’s forums or from society in general or when a man says it’s so important that a woman hace this it that physical attribute because he as a man is ‘visually stimulated

Women have every right to accept or pass on a man who makes less than her . Women are just as entitled to preferences.