What would you do in my situation

[Luccia12]

Right guys just wanted somewhere to talk.
So me n husband just got back from a split for a month last week. I told him i wasnt happy dur to him always working or meeting up late hours with his mates. Regular thing btw. I told him he really needs to work on communicating with me.

Hes never home before 11pm and some weekends goes out n doesnt even bother telling me.

I left as i was so fed up but he told me this will change he will make effort to change
We hace 3 DCs.

I guess he made an effort for 2-3 days and again gone back to working late coming back 1am and im feel so shit n lonely. He never calls or texts me in the day, i always have to if im lucky he picks up. I feel like he really dont care but keep telling myself its his work as his self employed. I do everything at home. I feel depressed!

I just dont know what to do, whether to give him more time to show effort, just move out, i dont know id cope alone, just minddd messed

@Luccia12

You already cope alone. You will never get what you need from this 'man'. He will never prioritize either you or your DC's, so you'll feel much better when you've split officially from him.

He's always going to treat you like shit and carry on 'working' until the early hours (definitely get an STD check asap) because he doesn't value/love you at all (except as the maid/nanny/cook he needs to ensure he's free to do whatever he likes but he's always got clean clothes and a hot meal available.)

Your kids probably barely know him at all . At least once you've split from him the kids will get more time with their Dad, doing fun stuff, and you'll get some kid free time to do things you'd like to do.

You're right - he is being totally unfair on you and your kids. And he knows it (he knows how annoying / upsetting / unjust it is) but still does it.

You deserve better than he is treating you.