I have been having marriage problems for years. I have posted on here before about problems with our sex life and problems with my husband's awful mates.
He's now saying he wants a divorce. We live abroad. I have never really settled here. I feel isolated and have no job and no friends.
I don't really have friends in the UK either but I think it will be best in the long run if I go back. The problem is we have 2 children. I think he knows it's best for them to come back but I know he's going to make it difficult. My parents are in the UK but not exactly supportive. I wanted to hear a 'my door is always open' from my mum but instead got 'you need to do everything you can to save your marriage '
At the moment my plan is to stay where I am while I figure out what to do. My parents are due over for a holiday on the 18th. They are here for nearly 3 weeks and I'm considering going back to the UK with them and taking the kids for a holiday whilst looking at places for us to settle.
DH's mates are coming over for a lads holiday in the first week of October and I can't be around for that.
So we agreed to be civil to each other but he's still drinking, he's still being manipulative, digging at me at every opportunity, has no remorse about how much he's hurt me and thinks it's as simple as 'I just don't want to be married to you any more but we can still be friends'
But I'm finding this bit torturous. I know lots of people play the long game before the final split but how do you cope with this bit and when do you tell the kids?
His parents live close and he has friends with vacant rental properties now. He has places to go but won't and hasn't told anyone apparently. When my parents are here he wanted them to stay in a hotel. They're saying they don't see why they should as it's my house too so DH (I'm not at acceptance phase yet) is now saying we have to pretend everything is ok for now.
Tips on how to get through the next few weeks? And fingers crossed my son gets his new passport soon!