We just had an argument and....

[Alwaysad45]

I suddenly couldnt breath. We were screaming at each other and I noticed I couldnt catch my breath inbetween words. I then had to sit down and felt like my throat was closing up. I couldnt breath at all and was gasping for air. It was so scary. Dp continued to argue with me after I was done. It took me about two scary minutes to catch my breath. What happened?

It sounds like an anxiety attack.

Panic attack

Panic attack.
Hope your ok

It's been a while now since it's happened but my chest still feels really tight and if I breath in deeply I cant. He hasnt even asked if I'm okay. Just gone to silk upstairs and leave me downstairs with baby

Do you have screaming rows often?

Yep, panic attack OP, how old is baby and are you and DP arguing a lot or was this a one off?

Sorry this happened.

I agree with everyone-it sounds like a panic attack. Definitely take some time alone to recover.

If your relationship is giving you panic attacks, it's time for a huge rethink.

Wow. He was upstairs having a nap. Yes we argue quite horribly and often. It's about the same issue so I just got really worked up as I couldn't believe it was still happening

What is the issue that causes the arguments?
Having regular screaming rows is not good. Especially with a baby in the house. If you have neighbours who can hear you don’t be surprised if they call the police.

If your relationship causes you to have tribulations screaming rows and panic attacks then it’s time to end it.

@Alwaysad45

Wow. He was upstairs having a nap. Yes we argue quite horribly and often. It's about the same issue so I just got really worked up as I couldn't believe it was still happening

FGS, don't raise your baby in this environment. It will scar them for life.

What is it you’re arguing over?

It doesn’t sound like a happy place to raise a child.

New babies can lead to stressful times but you both need to try and learn to argue without shouting.

Stop raising a baby in an abusive environment. If you can’t communicate without screaming at each other all the time you shouldn’t be together. Your baby deserves much better than this

Panic attack for sure.

I have told him about this but he cant help himself. He doesnt understand how abusive it is for our baby

@Alwaysad45

I have told him about this but he cant help himself. He doesnt understand how abusive it is for our baby

What does he mean he “can’t help himself”? Does he control himself in work? With his friends?

He is choosing to act like this towards you.

@Alwaysad45

I have told him about this but he cant help himself. He doesnt understand how abusive it is for our baby

Of course he can control himself. He doesn't treat his boss or people on the street like this, does he. Stop making excuses for his abuse.

So why are you screaming too?

@Alwaysad45

I have told him about this but he cant help himself. He doesnt understand how abusive it is for our baby

But you're screaming too?

But you're also screaming, so much so that you have a panic attack.

Not loving the victim blaming here.

@Alwaysad45

I have told him about this but he cant help himself. He doesnt understand how abusive it is for our baby

You were also screaming

I know I am no better. But I feel I must defend myself. He had been shouting at me from the moment I woke up today and then I had enough. He promised me he was going to work on his anger and not lash out at me. He was shouting at me because I said I didnt want to go to an event. I got hysterical. He constantly shouts at me and blames me for his anger then calms down and apologises and says I deserve better. He has promised me a thousand times he wouldnt talk to me horribly anymore but he did.

The screaming on my behalf is out of pure desperation. He doesnt seem to understand how much it hurts me (or maybe he does and still cant be bothered to take accountability for his actions)