The power struggle phase

[sunnyside303]

I think I am entering this stage of my relationship with my boyfriend and I'm interested to hear from others - what did it look like for you and how did you overcome it?

Eeeer, never heard of this and it doesn’t sound good. Are you sure you are in a healthy relationship?

never had it... not the norm

No we didn't have that either.

What's actually happening?

You say the 'power struggle stage' as though its a normal stage of a relationship.

I don't think it is.

The only time I had a power struggle in a relationship, it was abusive.

Another one who has never heard of it and never experienced it in a relationship.

Can you describe what it looks like? Not sure it sounds that healthy.

This is not a normal relationship phase...

I had to google it. Yes it’s a relationship phase but that’s a terrible name. It’s focusing on the wrong thing altogether.

I can’t think of a catchy name but it’s a period of learning about each other as your truly are, after the haze of love wears thinner.

If you can learn to communicate well with each other and care about each other the relationship will be fine.

Asserting and expressing yourself isn’t about power struggle. Power struggle suggests one is dominant and one is submissive and even if that moves between you, it’s not good. The trick is to find harmony.