Don’t know if I fancy him or not?? Help!!

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I am currently in the perimenopause and there is a man that I’ve just started dating, he is okay but I don’t know if I fancy him or not, and I don’t understand how in the hell I don’t know, is it just my hormones or what?! He isn’t the best kisser and this makes me think he will be awful at oral, my friend said show him the right way but he is 43 and I’m 40, he is too old to have to be shown and I’m finding it a turn off, also I’ve been dating him for just over a month and I’m not really feeling it, or am I damn hormones screwing me up, with every other man then the attraction has been there instantly and I’ve liked kissing them, but with this one then I can’t wait until the kiss stops, he is always dehydrated and it’s disgusting having to kiss a dry mouth, we went for a walk a couple of weeks ago with his dog and I got us a small bottle of water each from the shop, he finished it yet kissing was still awful, I also zone out when he speaks and he is way more fun when he is drunk, this doesn’t bode well does it?!

I am unsure if this in right section.

Maybe if you're bad-tempered and uninterested in sex, now is not the time to be dating.

I doubt very much there's enough water in the world to make you like kissing him.

I wouldn’t say I don’t fancy him because he is good looking and looks like he has a nice body under his clothes

Honestly, the older I get the more I'm realising "fancying" actually has nothing to do with bodily aesthetics. Give me "someone with flaws but blazing chemistry" over "perfect looks but bland company" any day.

Yes, you can find someone aesthetically pleasing and feel nothing.
Chemistry is everything.

It’s not permimeno
Just sounds like you don’t fancy him ?

I think he's not the one for you.

You're not into him and that is absolutely fair enough, but you have to just let him go.

He's Fun Bobby isn't he! Explains the dry hangover mouth

I texted him yesterday and told him that I didn’t want to continue anything with him, he said he was gutted but I just feel relief, and so tired as usual boyfriends and dates are just too much right now, I just want to eat sweet things all the time these days, got the feeling I’m gonna soon be a larger lady if I keep going on like this!!