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Little gift first meet

70 replies

feeficken · 17/08/2021 18:40

Hello,

Man here, so I’ve been chatting to a lady on POF and we’ve been getting on well so having taken it off the app we’ve exchange numbers m, we’ve been texting for about a week and a half every day up to all hours and it’s been going well.

Well we’ve finally managed to arrange a meet up for the end of the week so see if the spark is there. However I was thinking of taking a small gift just a couple of novelty items if things we’ve spoken about like a bottle of her favourite beer and a small keyring with stranger things in it because she is a massive fan.

Do you think it’s too soon and come across as a bit full on?

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seensome · 17/08/2021 18:49

I think it's a nice idea, the key ring gift not a bottle of beer, just one small gift or it would look full on.

RagRugs · 17/08/2021 18:52

Someone did that to me once and I felt it was waaay to much and didn't see him again.

However, I have a friend who always takes a little gift pack with lots of little things that pertain to things they've spoken about before meeting. It's always well received but a few of them said afterwards that they felt it was a bit intense. Some really liked it though.

Bottom line, if you met me, it would be too much. If you met my friend, it wouldn't be.

So no way of telling!

WineInTheBlood · 17/08/2021 18:54

Ahh it's nice. I think just keep it to one small gift though like the keyring as it's not extravagant. More of a "saw this and thought of you" which is sweet.

willowtree81 · 17/08/2021 18:57

It's a nice idea but hard to know how it would be received......May be slightly safer to wait till second meeting? Fingers crossed.) I'd feel like it was more appropriate then but everyone is different. Hope it goes well.

SeaShoreGalore · 17/08/2021 18:58

That would be a massive cringe from me.

TheFoundations · 17/08/2021 18:59

Asking strangers what she would like isn't how to do it.

For me it would scream 'TRYING TOO HARD!!', and finding out you'd asked a forum would really put me off. I'd be thinking 'Can he not make this simple decision on his own?!'

But someone else might think it was lovely. If you're not sure, don't do it. Do things you're sure of, when you're meeting someone new. Things that make you feel surefooted. Not things you fear will be a mis-step, or unwelcome, or not received in the spirit they were meant.

If she's right for you, she won't need you and a bottle of beer, and you'll get lots of other opportunities to give her small gifts.

BabyRace · 17/08/2021 18:59

Maybe a second date sort of thing

Aquamarine1029 · 17/08/2021 19:00

I would only give her the beer. The keyring in addition is too much and looks a bit desperate.

RosiePosieDozy · 17/08/2021 19:01

I wouldn't like it. It's too personal and creepy for the first meeting.

I would personally like a bunch of flowers but anything else would be a no for me. Treat her to the meal/activity if you want to 'gift' her something.

dryasaboner · 17/08/2021 19:01

Take a Cartier bracelet- you can't lose

Inthetropics · 17/08/2021 19:02

I would like this. Smile

Ivegotanewfridge · 17/08/2021 19:04

I’d love it. As others say, just the one gift. Maybe the beer as it’s slightly less personal. Save the key ring for when you’re giving her a key to your home Wink

Good luck, you sound thoughtful and decent

Dora26 · 17/08/2021 19:05

Drysaboner deffo

ImInStealthMode · 17/08/2021 19:05

I think they key ring would be nice, and not too much. I met my DP on the 20th December and for our 2nd date he got me a small gift for Christmas; just a bottle of wine I'd said I liked and a silly glittery flamingo trinket because I like flamingos. We're getting married next year, so didn't put me off Grin

BunTooti · 17/08/2021 19:06

My instinct was no, too much...then I remembered DH gave me a keyring from a short break he went on while we were first messaging and it's still on my keys 8 years later. I thought it was really lovely.
I'd say just one small gift for now.

girlmom21 · 17/08/2021 19:06

I don't think I'd feel comfortable receiving a gift on the first date. See if you actually get one first.

GemmaRuby · 17/08/2021 19:07

I think it would be too much for a first date/first meeting.

Addicted2LoveIsland · 17/08/2021 19:08

Too much. You might decide at the end of the date you don't like her and she may really like you. You then would have made this huge gesture which might make her feel led on if you don't want to see her again.

I think do something else like if you meet up for a drink and decide you like her take her put for dinner and pay or something.

Slipper2 · 17/08/2021 19:08

I would find it weird on the first date. Maybe after that, if it went to a second date, one gift would be ok.

QueenHofScotland · 17/08/2021 19:09

I think it’s lovely - maybe just stick to the key ring though.

purplecorkheart · 17/08/2021 19:10

It would be a no for me too. I have had it happen to me and it made me feel uncomfortable, can't really say why but it did.

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 17/08/2021 19:11

Second date, 100%.

You can see it would make some women uncomfortable, whereas by second date there is a little bit more investment.

I'm struggling to imagine a nice looking stranger things key ring if I'm very honest, too!

Divebar2021 · 17/08/2021 19:12

Errrrr no. Maybe the keyring on a second or third date but you haven’t even met her yet.

Lovemusic33 · 17/08/2021 19:16

I dated a guy who showered me with gifts on the first few dates, made me feel a bit uneasy (he spent quite a bit but only on silly things).

I would wait until the 2nd or 3rd date.

SeaShoreGalore · 17/08/2021 19:18

Given that you haven't met, you don't even know if you like the woman yet. At the moment you have some clues about what she's like, but are essentially communicating with a fantasy version of her. Buying gifts for someone you don't even know if you like just makes you look desperate.

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