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I fancy a bloke who works at the tip!!

85 replies

blimey0riley · 08/08/2021 11:27

Help, Ive been single for 12 years after a 22 year abusive relationship. Have 4 kids all grown up now. I moved house a year ago and am renovating the house and garden and in the process have made many, many trips to the local tip. During one trip I had to stay in a queue to get out, as the tip workers were moving heavy machinery, I noticed one of the workers seemed nice looking, then thought no more about it. On the next trip, same bloke helped me with some bricks in my car, but went to help someone else before I could say thank you. I've since been to the tip loads more, and I do catch him looking and I smile back. It's a small tip and everyone can hear everyone s conversations, how can I let him know I like him and ask him out? Or should I just give him my number? My daughter said she would come and be my "wingman" the last time I felt like this was when I was a teenager and my mates got us together, help!! I'm rapidly running out of things to take to the tip lol!!

OP posts:
WhatIsThisNow · 08/08/2021 20:07

I am marking my place as need to see how it works out on Tue, sounds exciting:)

blimey0riley · 08/08/2021 20:13

@PressuresOn see, that's what I'm worried about, I've not seen a wedding ring, but he may have a partner, and I'm so worried about about making an idiot of myself and then I can't ever go back to that tip!!

OP posts:
AngelDelightUk · 08/08/2021 20:25

At least if he says no you haven’t got much else to take there

If you don’t do something you’ll regret it. Just go for it!

MrsSkylerWhite · 08/08/2021 20:28

spongedod

The casual 'I should buy you a beer' sounds like a good approach “

Yes, very good idea. If he’s free and interested, he’ll respond. If he isn’t, it’s a friendly, throw away comment, no embarrassment on either side.

Sadiecow · 08/08/2021 20:55

It doesn't sound like my tip, but we've also got a really attractive man that works there. He is so happy friendly and nice, makes him even more attractive.

We are not limited to six visits a year 🙄!

DH just rolls his eyes at me.

Go on OP, slip him a note...

Make sure you keep MN updated.

Good luck.

Hotpinkangel19 · 08/08/2021 21:26

The no wedding ring doesn't really matter, I know friends in this job and they don't wear rings for safety reasons.

fallingagain · 08/08/2021 21:47

Can't you ask one of the other dudes his name as you would really like to send a email of feedback for his help to head office. Then get on Facebook and see what that reveals (if anything !)

Or get a mate to go and ask his name because she is sure she knows him from somewhere.

ErstwhileGoth · 08/08/2021 21:49

@fallingagain

Can't you ask one of the other dudes his name as you would really like to send a email of feedback for his help to head office. Then get on Facebook and see what that reveals (if anything !)

Or get a mate to go and ask his name because she is sure she knows him from somewhere.

If I found put someone had done that to me, I'd have nothing to do with them. Ever. It's a terrible suggestion!
Mantlemoose · 08/08/2021 21:56

Best post on here for a while. Definitely placemarking for Tuesday! I would just ask him if he wants to go for a drink sometime. Worse case he says no, hes taken, just laugh and say lucky girl. If he says yes have your number written down to give it to him so no faffing about trying to find pen/paper/trying to get your phone to save it etc. Go for it!

AdaFuckingShelby · 08/08/2021 22:02

Just ask him to come for a beer. And let us know how it goes!

MiamiBeach104 · 08/08/2021 22:06

Go for it! What's the worst that's going to happen? You'll have to find a new tip

BrozTito · 08/08/2021 22:08

Nobody truly worries about not being able to go back to the tip.

Mc3209 · 08/08/2021 22:44

Another vote for the 'beer' approach! If he is available and interested, he will respond accordingly. If not, it can be imagined to be a casual chit chat comment, and no need to find another tip!

PressuresOn · 08/08/2021 23:40

[quote blimey0riley]@PressuresOn see, that's what I'm worried about, I've not seen a wedding ring, but he may have a partner, and I'm so worried about about making an idiot of myself and then I can't ever go back to that tip!![/quote]
It’s a risk but it could be hes single you just never know ! Good luck x

PressuresOn · 08/08/2021 23:41

@Hotpinkangel19

The no wedding ring doesn't really matter, I know friends in this job and they don't wear rings for safety reasons.
Same for my dh he wasn’t allowed to wear one for safety reasons
fallingagain · 08/08/2021 23:59

@ErstwhileGoth

Don't most people check out others on FB? Don't know why you would be so offended by it.
Its an easy way to see if he is single

ErstwhileGoth · 09/08/2021 00:10

[quote fallingagain]@ErstwhileGoth

Don't most people check out others on FB? Don't know why you would be so offended by it.
Its an easy way to see if he is single [/quote]
It's the suggested subtefuge that bothers more than the checking.

I wouldn't like to think that someone had lied about pretending to know me to get my name for someone else. Or that they had emailed my workplace for the same reason. It's so underhand.

catinboots21 · 09/08/2021 00:18

🚗 Just parking here

Love me a good MN love story 🥰

Fluttrshy · 09/08/2021 00:19

I like the beer idea. (Shamelessly following) 💓💓

BadLad · 09/08/2021 00:19

On the next trip, same bloke helped me with some bricks in my car, but went to help someone else before I could say thank you

Write your number on a brick, and hand it to him on your next trip trip.

DoucheCanoe · 09/08/2021 00:24

DH works at the tip and they're not allowed to wear rings so I wouldn't go banking on that.

I'd also tread carefully if you need to use the place again, DH has been telling me things got a bit awkward the last few weeks after a woman who keeps booking in invited him to hers for lunch. He's now trying to keep out of her way as he thinks it's awkward and inappropriate for him to be seen bantering with her since she thought it was flirting so now he's concord of how it looks to others.

Fumnudge · 09/08/2021 00:31

Just ask him if he single. If he says no, you say 'shame, you're just right for a single friend of mine'.
If he says yes, ask if he fancies a drink some time and take it from there.
He may not believe you 100% but face saved a little.

MiamiBeach104 · 09/08/2021 22:11

@blimey0riley good luck for tomorrow (if you decide to approach him) and we can't wait to hear how it goes Flowers

winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 22:15

Definitely go for it! You only live once and who knows, you might have a start of something special! You won't know till you try it, don't regret not doing it, be confident 😊😊

SunShinesBrightly · 09/08/2021 22:18

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