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I fancy a bloke who works at the tip!!

85 replies

blimey0riley · 08/08/2021 11:27

Help, Ive been single for 12 years after a 22 year abusive relationship. Have 4 kids all grown up now. I moved house a year ago and am renovating the house and garden and in the process have made many, many trips to the local tip. During one trip I had to stay in a queue to get out, as the tip workers were moving heavy machinery, I noticed one of the workers seemed nice looking, then thought no more about it. On the next trip, same bloke helped me with some bricks in my car, but went to help someone else before I could say thank you. I've since been to the tip loads more, and I do catch him looking and I smile back. It's a small tip and everyone can hear everyone s conversations, how can I let him know I like him and ask him out? Or should I just give him my number? My daughter said she would come and be my "wingman" the last time I felt like this was when I was a teenager and my mates got us together, help!! I'm rapidly running out of things to take to the tip lol!!

OP posts:
pommepommefrites · 08/08/2021 13:25

I'm here for the updates...I like the beer and biscuits suggestions!

MerylSqueak · 08/08/2021 13:35

Just ask him if he'd like to go for a drink sometime. If he says yes, give him your number. He might not want to or might have a partner. You've lost nothing by trying.

blimey0riley · 08/08/2021 13:39

@GoWalkabout you've said everything I'm worried about x

OP posts:
FirstCupOfTeaOfTheDayIsBliss · 08/08/2021 13:44

[quote blimey0riley]@GoWalkabout you've said everything I'm worried about x[/quote]
But those things apply to anyone you might meet anywhere.

The biscuits and card idea sound good but maybe a bit 'much' for the guys who work at the tip. It's hardly going above and beyond to help you with stuff - that's the job.

Seriously, I wouldn't over think it. If he's not interested or not single - so what? You haven't sobbingly declared undying love for him.

I had a parent give me her number when I left a school i worked in a few years ago because we had good non school/child related chats at the end of the day in case I wanted to keep on touch. We did and are now good friends. Not the same I know but still.

FirstCupOfTeaOfTheDayIsBliss · 08/08/2021 13:45

You need to take a, "Fuck it. What's the worst that can happen?" approach to life Wink

FuckingFabulous · 08/08/2021 13:50

How do you know Tip Man isn't married?

66babe · 08/08/2021 13:51

@FirstCupOfTeaOfTheDayIsBliss the only reason I suggested that is because when i moved about 3 years ago I had loads that went to the tip ... we did about 10 trips in 2 cars over a single week and the lads were great .. helped me when I needed it and yes it's their job but they really did help me do something I'm meant to do on my own , their job is to direct the cars , stop the vans and make sure we going in the right bits
I took them biscuits and chocs a few weeks later , said thank you and honestly they were delighted
Said it has never happened and sometimes people are vile to them , throw stuff deliberately in the wrong sections , spill over and don't clean up and even just dump crap at the gate if they close ... cost me a fiver but made their day !

bigbaggyeyes · 08/08/2021 13:52

Just give him a note 'if you fancy a drink sometime?' Then put your name and number. If he doesn't ring or text within a week I hope you've got another tip locally Grin

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/08/2021 13:55

Definitely the offer to buy him a drink.
It simple and if he says no then at least you can away quicker Grin.
But I really hope it works out I will be checking back in Tues.

dalmatianmad · 08/08/2021 13:57

Shamelessly place marking Smile

TheBestCandidateByFar · 08/08/2021 14:04

Ask is he allowed to take tips? Then when he says yes say ask me for my number

Grin
BrozTito · 08/08/2021 16:38

I absolutely bloody love the tip. When i was about 5 i found an old alice in wonderland book there with amazing photos and the tip has had an aura of magic about it since.

BrozTito · 08/08/2021 16:39

Not really sure what the moral of my story is

BrozTito · 08/08/2021 16:40

Ooo ive had an idea ask if he does private work.

MrsMoastyToasty · 08/08/2021 16:43

You have daughterly approval. Go for it.

PressuresOn · 08/08/2021 16:46

@FuckingFabulous

How do you know Tip Man isn't married?
Well OP doesn’t know does she I guess🤷‍♀️

My dh works somewhere and had a regular ‘visitor’ , he didn’t think much of it and he’s polite and friendly with everyone. Occasionally I’d pop in maybe 1-2 times a month. I saw her one week then again about 3 months later, on the actual day she went up to him and asked him out !!! I’d taken him a coffee in as was passing and knew he rarely gets breaks and as I was walking up I suddenly heard, tried to do a quick turn and spilt coffee on myself as I felt SO bad for her . DH handled it tactfully but I had to hide as she seemed so sweet and I felt sad for her he said he never saw her again

ForCluckSake · 08/08/2021 16:47

Another shameless placemarker

CorianderBee · 08/08/2021 16:52

FGS you're both grown ups just ask for his number

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 08/08/2021 17:23

This sounds like a potential perfect Mumsnet love story

"Our eyes met and then I didn't want to waste another moment."

"He found himself simply unable to refuse my charms."

"Our hearts skip a beat every time we meet."

I am SO desperately hoping that OP's name is Yolanda, tip man's name is Philip and they get together, marry and spend the rest of their lives happily together in their forever house - which they name 'Landphil' Grin

66babe · 08/08/2021 17:27

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

And no "trashy" ex come to try and spoil it ?
Best I can do 🤣

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 08/08/2021 17:28

Shamelessly peacemaking for Tuesday. Tuesday also happens to be my birthday, so I'll think of you when I blow out my candles WinkGrin

lollipoprainbow · 08/08/2021 18:06

@HerRoyalRisesAgain me too and it's also my birthday !! Smile

luciles · 08/08/2021 18:08

@ForCluckSake

Another shameless placemarker
Me too Grin
HerRoyalRisesAgain · 08/08/2021 18:49

lollipoprainbow ooh birthday twin!

MissCruellaDeVil · 08/08/2021 19:13

Ask him out for a drink!