Low level irritation with DP: am I with the wrong person?

[Babymeanswashing]

I’m feeling weird at the moment. I had my first baby in November last year, obviously just a month later everything went into lockdown again.

So I’ve tried to make the best of it, gone out loads, made mummy friends, go for walks, coffee, lunch, am active and out a lot. Problem is it’s sort of become the expected norm that I go out and he doesn’t and it’s starting to get to me a bit. Every day he asks me ‘so what are you doing today?’ If it’s getting towards midday and I haven’t gone out he asks me where I’m off to, when will I be back.

Tbh I am longing for a few days at home! Im not saying I wouldn’t go out at all but Im fed up of feeling like I have to be out for hours at a time irrespective of weather, etc.

I feel like we communicate badly. We don’t argue but we struggle to talk which is also hard.

Hobbies, I know these are the bane of every MNetter but I’m a bit resentful of his because he wants me to participate with cycling and it’s just not really fun for me.

I know this probably made little sense but I just need to talk!

Me paying rent? No. I’ll pay into a joint account when I’m back at work.

Thanks for the advice, I can see I do need to have a chat with him!

I think he needs a home office not to take over the house. Maybe the shed ? 😂

Working from home and zooming will be harder when you have a noisy toddler! Will he return to the office out of the home soon?

I just thought if you were contributing to the rent or bills you should feel able to think of it as your home as much as his. But it's much harder if it actually is entirely his home :/

How old are you both? And how long have you been together?

He’s 41, I’m 40. 3 years.

@Babymeanswashing

Me paying rent? No. I’ll pay into a joint account when I’m back at work.

Thanks for the advice, I can see I do need to have a chat with him!

If you're paying into a joint account, but the assets aren't joint, you're not in a good position.

Is marriage on the cards?