I suspect this post won't age well but....

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....sometimes MN is a good outlet for things you don't want to say to your friends.

I went on a date at the end of 2020. Clear as day, I remember sitting across the table and thinking 'I could marry this guy'.

Not in the sense that I actually wanted to marry him. Just that, if the clock stopped and I had to choose someone I could see myself eating breakfast with every day, out of everyone I'd been on a date with recently, he'd be the one.

It was the strangest thing. I NEVER think like this. Everyone laughs at me because I'm usually such a skeptic when it comes to dating. I don't even know if I want to get married again and it's certainly not something I think about on a first date.

There was nothing that necessarily stood out between him and any other guy I'd dated. I had a great date but I don't recall any stand-out moments. It was fun but there was copious amounts of booze so that wasn't a huge surprise. I have no idea why I had that thought.

We had two more dates but they were just coffee and I don't remember having a strong feeling about them either way.

He then had to go back to his home country. I dated someone else and honestly he didn't cross my mind.

Fast forward to May and I was single again and we reconnected on a dating app.

Now coming up for 2.5 months since then and we've been dating ever since. It's by far the best dating experience I've had. I've never felt so comfortable with someone. I'm not an inherently romantic person and usually it takes a lot for me to be 'snuggly' with someone. Or if I do it (say, walking round holding hands), I feel totally ridiculous or awkward.

None of that in this case. It feels bloody fantastic. Everything just seems to work - intellectually, physically and emotionally.

Now, it's early days (and honestly, it was a toss-up between posting this and posting HELP I'M TERRIFIED OF GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE AND GETTING MY HEART BROKEN')....

But I decided to opt for this positive post in the hope I can revisit it in a year's time and smile.

Or, of course, I could be jinxing it, being utterly ridiculous or setting myself up for a huge disappointment.

But nonetheless I'm fascinated by that random fleeting thought on the first date that somehow instinctively told me there was some kind of connection there.

I am quite shy and very rarely click with people I've just met. But when I met my now DH I just knew we would end up together. 20 years later and 2 DC I am so glad we had a chance encounter

Hope it works out for you. When I met my man it was lust at first sight, we been together for 37 years, if it’s meant to be it will work out trust me

I'm in exactly the same place. I'm 2 months in, first time I met him he felt familiar, he felt like he was for me. It's so easy with him. So simple.
Bloody terrifying and I am not blindly falling, I am keeping an eye on something still while I spin, but it feels right in a way nothing has before.

I kind of know what you mean.

There is someone who I know il be with in the future. Times not right now but it will be, one day.

I texted my brother the day after a first date to day I'd met the man I was going to marry. We've been married for 18 years. I had always been worried that I would never be sure enough to make the decision to say yes. In the end, it was incredibly easy. I had absolutely no doubts.

Enjoy it OP.

These stories are lovely! My ex has many good qualities - but unfortunately for me (and I'm sure for many others from similar backgrounds), many of the things that make a man feel 'like coming home' would be red flags to someone with a more reliable father figure or relationship history. I just can't trust my gut at all, but it's nice to see that other people coming from difficult or abusive relationships were able to find a proper thrill with someone who was so much better for them

Georgeous thread.

Really hope it works out for you OP.

I met someone at a funeral 2.5 years ago. He's lovely, funny and kind. We bump into each other ocassionally. It feels so easy with him. I really hope we can be together one day.

Yup happened to me, together for 27 years, married for 21. Still feel the same and we work together so with each other 24/7

I've been married twice.

Started dating my first husband when I was a teenager, he told me he had seen me once on a bus when I was about 12 and he had thought about me alot, not in a sexual way but I'd just registered somewhere.

Met 2nd husband when I was in my 30s, he was 7 years older. One day he asked me if I ever went to a certain place when I was younger. I said yes I did. He said he was sure he had seen me one day, he would have been 19 or 20 and I would have been about 12. He said he just stood and stared at me, he couldn't explain it but he said it was like a lightning bolt.

I think I must have reached my peak at 12 but truthfully looking at photos I can't see what they saw. It is a bit of a mystery.

I hope that in a few years time, this thread pops up and you and your DH will look back on this and smile about how good it's been from when you first started dating.

Met dh in a shop, we both friends with lady who worked in there, she said as we walked out for the to go for a coffee, nothing more “I’ll get a hat” a year later we married.

Over 20 years ago I was at work staring at the cute butt of a new starter, hadn't seen his face yet. When one of my colleagues who was a practising psychic (don't believe in it myself ) told me the tarot had told him I was going to marry the new starter. I laughed as I had a boyfriend and no intention of marrying anyone. 6 months later me and the new starter were engaged and are still married.

Met my H quite by chance. Clicked immediately. It was a true lightning bolt.

He mirrored me wonderfully.

My cat hated him and pissed in his face.

We married and have a gorgeous lad together.

Haven't seen the tosser since our lad was a baby.

He drained our bank accounts and disappeared to shag whores in Thailand.

But he did re-marry almost immediately and they are very happy togethyer still as far as I know. I don't know much though and nor does our son. Thank god. Bellend

The lightning bolt isn't infallible then BustyDusty. The thing that struck me was both my husbands had this lightning bolt about me years, even decades, before we met and I didn't even notice them so a bit one sided.

I LOVE this thread!! Just been reading through it and smiling 😍

I’ve been on 2 dates now with a guy I instantly felt a click with the minute I saw him and he’s said the same. It feels so different to any other. Hopefully I can come back and post on this thread soon 😂

When I woke up the morning after meeting my DH, the thought just appeared in my head 'I'm going to marry that man'.
And I did, nearly 30 years ago now.

I hope it ages well OP Another normally sceptic type here and I've also had those feelings - twice! The first was the first time I laid eyes on my "first love". There was no reason to think it, he wasn't anything amazing to look at but the very first time I saw him and asked a friend who he was (she worked with him and had waved as we passed) he looked at me and I just knew he was going to be in my life. It was so odd. About 18 years ago now and I still remember that day and that feeling as clear as anything. Random circumstances threw us together a few months later and we were together for 4 years.

The second is with my now husband. Met him at work, I didn't even like him much initially and yet after having to spend the day working together on a particular project I got this weird feeling (?) that he'd be the father of my children. It wasn't rational at all, I was with someone else at the time. But it happened!

Me and my fiancée both had the same feeling about each other too. Good luck to you! Xx

I met mine via OLD. With 2 minutes it took every ounce of strength I had not to slip my hand into his. It felt like I’d found the missing piece of the jigsaw. There was, and still is, such an intense, peaceful, bond.

It was like, ‘There you are. Now we can get on with the rest of our lives.’ No game playing, no Will he or won’t he call, no messing about. We were exactly where we wanted to be and we both knew it.

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Met my H quite by chance. Clicked immediately. It was a true lightning bolt.

He mirrored me wonderfully.

My cat hated him and pissed in his face.

We married and have a gorgeous lad together.

Haven't seen the tosser since our lad was a baby.

He drained our bank accounts and disappeared to shag whores in Thailand.

But he did re-marry almost immediately and they are very happy togethyer still as far as I know. I don't know much though and nor does our son. Thank god. Bellend

My takeaway from this post is to ALWAYS trust your cat.

OP may your cat love this man, and may it all work out for you perfectly!

When I met dh 15 years ago I knew the first time I met him he'd be an important person in my life. 15 years, marriage and 2 kids later - I was right!

I broke up with a guy I was seeing casually as I knew it was going nowhere and possibly preventing me meeting someone. I went out that night with friends and met a guy who I knew pretty much straight away was going to be my future husband. 4 years later and we are engaged.

Hope it works out for you OP.

I had the exact same thing on my first date with DH in 2004.

I was pining after a horrible ex, but decided to go on a date that night with a random bloke, before begging my ex to reconsider dumping me in the morning.

Before the end of the first drink I thought 'ah fuck! I'm going to marry this guy'. And that was that. I did.

❤ this thread.