Dread school hols with unreasonable ex

[Losingthewill21]

My exH is always a nightmare but especially in school holidays. We share custody and during term it works well between us.

He works from home and can work really flexibly. However I work shifts in healthcare so my hours are not straight forward.

When I ask if we can alter days/times he does everything in his power to make it awkward for me. Says the job is my choice??!!! Erm no I need to work to live!

I just dread dealing with him, he does have mental health issues and he is still quite bitter about the break up (over 4 years ago and he did not want to split).

He hasn't met anyone and still feels like it's his right to belittle me, and make my life difficult.

Will it ever get any better? :(

Probably not... (💐 as I know that's not the answer you wanted)...
... So ask yourself... how can you make it easier for yourself...

You need fixed contact, if necessary court ordered. Then you need to inform your employer that you have fixed commitments. I know the NHS used to be very bad for this, but surely now there are so many shortages they need to be more reasonable.
Men like this really need legally enforced boundaries.
do you have anyone who can be your emergency back up if he doesn't cooperate?

I don't know where you work OP, but I used to run a community based service and all the staff were PT and all had fixed shifts. They could swap within their own grade as long as they arranged it with me and the service was covered. It all worked very well.