Should I leave my H and kids?

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I am absolutely desperate. Living with my H is emotional and mental torture. I have tried to deal with it for years but I just can't do it anymore. He would never move out of the house and I could not afford to buy him out anyway.

The only option I can think of to leave is for me to move out, but I couldn't take the kids. They are settled here and I know them moving to a deprived area and moving schools would affect them very badly, especially the eldest.
I would still see the kids but I would have to become the part-time parent.

How old are your DC?

I think your DC would be far happier living in a non-abusive home. Your DC like "adore" their Dad because they are treading on eggshells and know to not upset him or make him angry.

You need professional help, woman's aid and counselling. I think your situation is so bad you are incapable of being objective about how badly both you and the DC are suffering.

What you are ensuring is truly horrific.

His behaviour could be that of a saint and you could still divorce him and get a share of marital assets. Marriages break down, the why doesn’t really matter, you have legal rights and you should not dismiss them because he might not like that.