My partner and I have been together 15 years and we bought our first house last year. I've noticed that the house has become a trigger for arguments. We have very different decor tastes and the only way to get around this was to split the rooms up so he chooses the decor for his, and I do mine. He never buys anything for the house, unless it's a biggish item.
Now, the issue is, he says that I should ask him for his opinion before I buy anything that isn't a consumable. Like, I bought a doormat and he wasn't happy because I didn't ask him what he thought first. Yesterday, I bought a tiny storage unit for £10 to go in the cupboard under the stairs to put cleaning products in (which he never uses) but he kicked off because I didn't ask him first. I don't dare put the unit in there now. I bought a toilet brush and maybe I should've asked him first? It wouldn't be so bad if he bought stuff. Basically, If I don't buy it, we don't have it, but then he makes me feel guilty for buying it.
It's just little bits to improve our house but I feel like I'm being controlled in some way. He says the house belongs to both of us so we both need to discuss these things. Am I right to feel so sad about it?