Never been attracted to my husband

[changesoul]

Hello all,

My husband is good man he cares for me a lot and loves me. We had arrange marriage but even after few years I'm still feeling not at all attracted to my husband I have never felt in love or attracted. What should I do ? Should I just let it go or should I act on it ?

It depends what you mean by 'act on it'.

Personally I would not be having sex with a man I was not attracted to. Though I understand some people could do this. For example, some asexual (but non sex repulsed) people still have sex because they enjoy the pleasure their partner gets from it or because they like the intimacy it brings with someone they love.

But you dont love the guy either. Which is a separate and equally as important area.

I would personally, end things and set him free to find someone who is right for him. And then take the time as a single woman to find out what was going on with my sexuality.

Have you never fancied anyone? Not even a movie star? It could be that you are asexual. But aesexual people can still love people. So either way, this man doesnt seem to be the one for you.

Just a side note: You might have been raised to view sex as something women were not supposed to care about? Or, is it possible you might actually like women but that has been suppressed for social and cultural reasons?

My dear, that is a decision no no one else can make for you. Can you live the rest of your life without attraction because he's a good man? You're going to have to get real honest about your true feelings