Tell me not to message him

[gindreams]

I feel obsessed with a man who has slept with me and ghosted me or at least isn't replying anymore

I think if I don't message him I will never hear from him again so please tell me not to message him

Messaging him isn't going to make him reply. The only difference will be that you'll not hear back from him AND feel like shit for sending the message.

NO.
If you do, he won't reply and you'll feel desperate. It's always hard when ur ghosted but NO. Retain your dignity. There is nothing to gain here but embarrassment. X

Visualise him reading your message and sniggering as he shows it to his mates/other woman he is with!

That should be enough to keep you strong and not messaging! If he wants to be in touch he will be, and if he doesn't then messages from you will not make him change his mind.

Thank you ! I feel better already

Don't let men mess you about!! Not ever.

Time to pull up your big girl's pants and take charge of your life

Good for you. Know your worth. If he doesn't want to be with you then he doesn't deserve you pining for him.

Dont do it! The feeling after when he doesn't reply is 1000 worse than you feel now. I say this from experience!

Don't message him.

It hurts terribly but is best left. You will get over it. He's a coward, it's wrong to sleep with someone and then not speak to them but that's how it is and you can't change it.

Keep your dignity. Delete and block. You deserve better and will only get that with somebody else.

No dont. He is probably waiting for you people pleasing text. Dont send it.

Thanks again ! I pop back onto the thread to remind myself not to message him !

When you want to message post here instead

Give your phone to a friend and get them to delete his number and delete all his SM
That will help

You'd be boosting his ego dont do it, let him think he's not that desirable. Put your effort into finding someone that appreciates you.

Dignity
Dignity
Dignity

Delete and block

He’s made his intentions clear
If you message him his reaction will be that you are someone he can message anytime he feels horny and wants a no strings shag without putting any effort in. Is that what you want??

Blocking and deleting shows him you are not interested

Block him. Pretend you’ve had the Men In Black treatment and can’t remember him.

Remember it’s not just that he slept with you. You slept with him.

You are not his passive thing to use and discard, and he is self evidently not good enough for you. Why would you want to message him? Why would you even dream of seeing him again?

Don’t message. And if this leaves him hankering ( because he didn’t get the satisfaction of you begging him and he has a yen to see if he can reel you back in) don’t be taken in. Ignore.

It is a good idea to delete and block his number.

Thank you all !

Blocked and deleted !

It wasn't even that great I don't know why I get obsessed with arseholes

Well done for deleting and blocking - because you have agency, because you don’t like men like him anyway, and because you will not be bothering with any more of that ilk.

Please don't message him keep your dignity. For all you know he has blocked you anyway. He saw you as a fxxx sorry. If you message him he will tell his mates you are a crazy stalker. Don't give him the satisfaction.

Good for you gindreams!

Don't message him!! If he was interested you would know. You are dignified, graceful and self sufficient.

What lovely thing can you do for yourself tomorrow, OP?