MY HUSBAND ROLD ME IM UNNATRACTIVE WHILE PREGNANT AND THAT HE WILL WATCH PORN WHEN HE WANTS TO AND THAT I JUST NEED TO DEAL WITH IT

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Me and my husband have been married for almost 3years, together for 7 with some major up and down in between. Since I got pregnant his attitude has completely changed towards me. I'm now 7 and a half months pregnant and after us arguing all the time I just asked what his problem with us being intimate or even cuddling at the moment is cause we are doing non of it. He told me that some men don't find pregnant women attractive and he is one of them, even if I offer a bj or anything he always says no but he will happily watch porn and do his thing. He told me that I just need to deal with it and stop getting upset and anxious over it. Then he said that we can talk about it after the baby comes and I start working on my self a little bit.He has also become super selfish, hes not trying to help me with anything around the house,I don't ever get complemented on anything and just the opposite he never likes anything or says the most fake comments that literally have no meaning to just try make me feel better, he only cares about his feelings and he wants to get everything for himself like sell my car and get a "nice" car for himself? He joined a gym which is great in a way for him but it makes my anxiety go through the roof cause I know he will be looking at all them beautiful women in there and wish I was like them.There is obvieusly a lot of other issues but this is something that hurt me so much that I just don't know how to look past it, did he really need to be so honest? Do I just move on? It's our first baby and I can't see coping by myself with no money or family to turn to but I am so hurt and unhappy I just don't know what to do. I keep thinking of leaving but I literally have no where to go so I'm looking for tips to I guess just get over it for the babies sake. Sorry for a long post but I just need some words of encouragement rather then him being "nice" about it x

Honestly he is disgusting!!! Just leave him I am sure you could find a place to stay ? Your parents ? I have no words

Leave. It will only get worse when the baby arrives.

Don't put up with this!
Tell family and friends what is happening
If you really have no family support, keep posting here and people will give you lots of advice. Check out what benefits you would be entitled to.

He's being verbally abusive - it often begins when a woman is pregnant and "trapped".
I'm so sorry, you and your baby deserve better than this, much better

LTB

If I were you, I wouldn't leave, I'd ask him to. His behaviour is appalling and is the last thing you need to have to deal with. No, you should not 'get over it' - he's not going to improve, so the best thing for you and your baby is to dump him as soon as you can. Awful man!

Hopefully you have family who will provide good emotional support
Are you working?

I'd tell him I found the fact that he was an utter dickhead really unattractive - and that I was filing for divorce, pursuing him vindictively for every fucking penny I could and that he would just need to deal with it!

I don't understand why you are even with such a disgusting man in the first place, let alone marrying him and having a baby with him. For me porn is a dealbreaker. Everything you describe about him is absolutely disgusting. You will be much better off single and raising your child on your own. Good luck OP.

Don’t stay with this man. He is not good for you. He should be supporting and caring for you. Just chuck him out.

He doesn't deserve you. Speak with family, friends or your midwife to ask for help in leaving him.

What are the major ups and downs op?

Wow, he's awful. I think he has shown you his real colours! Plot your escape!

LTB NOW

Echo everyone else. You WILL be fine...but not if you stay with that idiot. I was a single parent of 4 including a baby and managed. You'll be absolutely ok x

He's not very nice is he OP? Honestly, do you even need to ask about this? Why would you waste your life being with such an awful person?

What a vile pig he is. I’m sorry OP 💐💐

Well he’s a scum bag!!!! Shove a baby up his vagina for 9 months and see how quickly he runs to the gym and does his nails: fuck him OP. Babies are hard enough, you don’t need someone like him bringing you down and putting you under pressure to look a certain way.

If I knew then what i know now I would have ended the marriage and terminated the pregnancy. Men like this are vile - they wait till they have you trapped before they start ramping up the abuse.

This isn't normal OP. I would be disappearing

This is too much for someone to deal with. Let alone a vulnerable feeling pregnant woman. It's enough to give you PND and you know he'll play that card when he makes you feel like this post birth. Trust me you and your child would be so much better off alone than with that toxic POS. Leave him and concentrate on yourself and your child..congrats on the pregnant and best of luck x

He’s selfish and horrible. You know that.

What money do you have now? Will you get maternity pay? What’s the housing situation? Do you have friends you trust?

I’d write a list of the practical things you need to sort so you can leave him before your baby arrives.

He’s disgusting and he’ll get worse when you’re recovering from your birth and exhausted with a small baby you need to focus on.

People on here can help if you explain what you need to do.

what a pathetic individual he is. let him get on with his porn, you can do so much better than this, get some legal advice and your paper work together.

What a prick he is. You know you need to LTB, he sounds horrid.

You and your baby deserve better than him. I'm sorry you're going through this but he's probably going to become more abusive, not less. It's nothing to do with the way you look, it's too do with him being a controlling pig who wants to make you feel small so he feels big.

This is my first ever LTB post. Sorry