So it’s my birthday… today! My bf who I’ve been with a year didn’t plan anything or get anything for me. I dropped him to the station last night to go home and he messaged me at 9pm saying oh we should have had a drink or something.
I told him 9pm is too late and it’s not acceptable to start making plans at that time.
Today I finished work at 9.30 and he said we should get a drink and I said I couldn’t collect him (he doesn’t drive) and he said have a good night then. He messaged me at 10am saying he loved me and would I like to get food at the weekend but I made plans with my kids as he left it too late.
He then acted surprised that I was disappointed so I told him minimal effort and wishy washy interest is not gonna work for me. And even my daughter managed to get me a card!
He then responds: you’re disrespecting me trying to make me look bad. However I never swore or lost my cool just stated what’s on my mind.
And he finally responded ‘that’s the last time you disrespect me’.
Now my question is: am I being a brat or disrespectful? And what are your thoughts about this situation or interaction?