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I'd love a good friend

128 replies

toadstool32 · 10/07/2021 20:24

I can't believe I'm saying this. How embarrassing. But I would love a really good friend. I've got a few people I could call acquaintances and get on with work colleagues but I would love nothing more than a true friend.

I'm 33, married with two kids. I had my first daughter at 22 and I think that was the crux. I lost my friends at the time as I was home with a baby whilst they were out all the time. I never fitted into the mum scene at the time because I was on average a decade younger than the rest and I was made to feel rather ostracised. I had my second daughter at 26.

I work full time. I genuinely think I'm a kind person and fun! I just rarely get the opportunity to show it as well, I don't have any friends. Birthdays are hard as year on year I have a special dinner with my family but I'd love a few friends to do something with. I've never been a bridesmaid but I'd love that! Small examples but you get the gist.

I've tried joining some hobbies to meet people and I'm involved with school mums but they're very clicky and my face doesn't fit.

God what a pity post!! For anyone who's read without thinking "sad cow", thank you!

OP posts:
Aliceclara · 30/07/2021 10:13

@Bibbetybobbityboreoff
I'm also in West Yorks but don't know how to pm on here!

Branleuse · 30/07/2021 10:33

what about finding people you click with online?
What sort of things are you into?

Mumvschildren · 30/07/2021 10:51

I’m in Stafford (born and bred in York but moved to be with my partner)
If anyone fancies a coffee I’d love to do it

I had my tribe in York but I have maybe one mate here and work colleagues who I speak to at work but not out of it

Always up for coffee and a rummage in charity shops!

Yellow1316 · 30/07/2021 11:44

@Bibbetybobbityboreoff I have tried to PM you but for some reason my message won’t send.

Makemedoit · 30/07/2021 11:58

Oooh yes not too far away

Makemedoit · 30/07/2021 12:08

I am happy to set up a midlands WhatsApp group. PM your numbers

sallievp · 30/07/2021 12:16

Can anyone from the Surrey group pm me? I'd love to join WhatsApp...can't figure out how to Pm! 🙂

Terrazzo · 30/07/2021 12:28

Sallie I just messaged you

BorderlineHappy · 30/07/2021 13:06

@PearlFriday and @Timewaitsfornomam where abouts in Dublin. PM me

Stuckinarut79 · 30/07/2021 17:49

I think I’ve sent a pm to join the Surrey whats app group, I’m 42 in Surrey. I have a couple of friends but they have loads of other friends, so meet ups are few and far between.

GreyerbytheDay · 30/07/2021 19:56

I’m in West Yorks but near the NY border @Disneyblue

@Bibbetybobbityboreoff, I’ve tried to PM but it won’t let me!

Bibbetybobbityboreoff · 30/07/2021 20:45

@greyerbytheday I've sent you a pm

rainbowdashsneeze · 31/07/2021 13:01

I'm West Yorkshire I'd be happy to join in a WhatsApp group ☺️

Beforeim40 · 31/07/2021 13:39

I'm in SW London and in the same situation. Going through a very rough time of it and no real friends to turn to, it's tough. I would love to join a WhatsApp group or I'd be happy to create one.

lollipoprainbow · 01/08/2021 12:03

Anyone in sussex ?!

Yellow1316 · 01/08/2021 12:16

@rainbowdashsneeze I have sent you a PM

darumafan · 01/08/2021 13:26

@Makemedoit, I have sent you a PM

Catdog24 · 01/08/2021 14:03

@Fluellablue

Ooh I missed this, *@missw1987 and @GreyerbytheDay*! I'm in Bradford, and spend quite a bit of time in Huddersfield and Halifax. Are you anywhere near?!
Ha! Small world, I live near Halifax!
TragicKingdom · 01/08/2021 15:21

I could have written this post myself. I'm 45 and have let friendships slide over the years. I separated at the start of the year and moved into my own place and realise how lonely life is. I don't have any close enough to just message for a coffee or glass of wine.

I think I'm a bit socially awkward too which doesn't help. I'm in Shropshire if there are any folks who'd like to message, have a drink.

Hawkins001 · 01/08/2021 15:23

I understand your perspectives and frustrations, I've been in a similar boat, the main thing for me is trust issues, and unintentionally I tend to keep most people at a distance.

Winnona · 01/08/2021 15:26

I am mid 40s Oxfordshire in anyone is nearby

Marmitemarinaded · 01/08/2021 15:26

Just back from morning with my two old and bested friends

They are better than sisters in my opinion! (And I adore my sister!)

And absolutely better than and husband : partner!

Hawkins001 · 01/08/2021 15:26

I'd say take more intrigue with different people on a daily basis even if it's it's small talk as I use that to build the beginnings of a friendship.

Marmitemarinaded · 01/08/2021 15:27

any husband or partner!

Yummytummy123 · 01/08/2021 15:39

Hi I would love to make friends too! Anyone in Berkshire?

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