I'd love a good friend

[toadstool32]

I can't believe I'm saying this. How embarrassing. But I would love a really good friend. I've got a few people I could call acquaintances and get on with work colleagues but I would love nothing more than a true friend.

I'm 33, married with two kids. I had my first daughter at 22 and I think that was the crux. I lost my friends at the time as I was home with a baby whilst they were out all the time. I never fitted into the mum scene at the time because I was on average a decade younger than the rest and I was made to feel rather ostracised. I had my second daughter at 26.

I work full time. I genuinely think I'm a kind person and fun! I just rarely get the opportunity to show it as well, I don't have any friends. Birthdays are hard as year on year I have a special dinner with my family but I'd love a few friends to do something with. I've never been a bridesmaid but I'd love that! Small examples but you get the gist.

I've tried joining some hobbies to meet people and I'm involved with school mums but they're very clicky and my face doesn't fit.

God what a pity post!! For anyone who's read without thinking "sad cow", thank you!

Friend of mine set up a fb group. Meetings once a month, no obligation to go, just in a pub, it is still going strong. I hope that those of you looking for some new company find it, if it’s through Mumsnet then even better.

👋 at everyone. OP, your post really resonated with me. I’ve a thread just now about being let down by friends and my mother.

I feel so similar to how you do, it’s not just you. I think people come in and out of lives and in my experience, boundaries are improving as I get older and frankly, I take less sh1t!

It would be a really good if wee catch ups either online or in person were to come of your thread. Everyone needs an ear.

I’m in Scotland

I feel the same. I’m in Leeds and would love to join any Yorkshire WhatsApp groups

I'm in the north west

I’m NW too

Birthdays are hard as year on year I have a special dinner with my family but I'd love a few friends to do something with. I've never been a bridesmaid but I'd love that
I have lots of friends but we never do anything to celebrate my birthday. I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times. It was highly stressful and I hope I’m never asked again. I love my friends but honestly, my friendships have also caused stress and taken up so much headspace. It’s not all roses. But I am lucky. I make friends easily. However I missed the boat and have no kids and I’m separated!

There’s a group of us on WhatsApp if any of you want to join us? Original thread is here, or just PM your number!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4289091-does-anyone-want-to-be-friends

Im in Surrey too! Banstead!

All the Surrey dwellers shall we start a what's app group? I'd love to make some friends too 🙂

@toadstool32

Hey hey!

I'm 27, married with one baby, near Guildford way of the Surrey / London border.

I would love to grab a coffee! Having children can be so isolating. The best thing in the world but I lost a lot of friends who don't have babies. You're not a sad cow, you're human and us humans love friends!

If you're close to London then you should have no lack of opportunities to socialise and meet people, if you are willing to go out of your way to do so. Try meet up groups and getting involved in more hobbies you are interested in - a book group, art, craft, sports, do a course, whatever you like.

Don't be disheartened if you don't meet your bestie, though. You just have to go for the experience and if you do meet a good friend then that's great. You really can't force this stuff, you just have to keep putting yourself out there and wait.

I could have written that OP! I'm in west surrey if anyone fancies a splinter group!

@Dandy0911 Hello! I'm near guildford too, 2 DC and TTC number 3. I fancy a meet up!

@Terrazzo ah yay! Guildford's 10 mins from me.

I have absolutely no idea how to PM on here 😅
If you do then drop me a message, I'd love to meet for coffee / play dates!

Maybe we can do a little Surrey WhatsApp group??

I'm actually I'm Hampshire. (Hides) But Surrey border and Guildford's 10 minutes from me. But I drive and willing to drive to meet some new faces!

I'm happy to set up a Surrey WhatsApp group so those who fancy joining PM me and I'll sort it

@Charlotte0284

I'm probably being very thick but I've never PMd before how do I do it?? Total novice!

@Dandy0911 just messaged you :)

@Dandy0911 above everyone's post there is a 'send message' link.
Messaging you now @Charlotte0284 !

@Dandy0911 it's actually 'message poster' sorry!

I feel the same as you OP. 34, no life to speak of what so ever, not one single person that I could just pop round to see or call for a chat....I too find it embarrassing, almost humiliating at times. It’s really lonely and certainly does feel impossible to change really 😩

@Terrazzo

I thinkkkk ive replied. I don't have MN premium so I've got to go on the website to do it.

I wrote out a reply but it disappeared! Let me know if you don't have it and I'll try again :)

@Amandasummers Hi Amanda - Im in SW London and have just PM’d you. Im not quite in Surrey but hopefully I might be able to join the Whatsapp group!

@Bibbetybobbityboreoff

If anyone is interested in a Yorkshire WhatsApps group send me a PM 😊

Have sent you a message not sure if it's worked.

Anyone from Selby or North Yorks??

Totally with you OP btw

I'm a longtime lurker here, its sad to hear that so many of us feel the same but also reassuring to know that you are not alone.

@PearlFriday and @BorderlineHappy I'm in Dublin too

I'm English but have been living in Ireland for years now and I'm happy here with my husband and DD (and I'm currently heavily pregnant with second child) but I have no real friends here.

The pottery class sounds like so much fun PearlFriday! I admire you for getting out there and I think you have the right attitude about going with the low expectation of just trying to enjoy it and any potential friends are a bonus.