Fed up of being called moody

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As the title says, I'm fed up with my DP calling me moody. It's literally a daily occurrence. I don't even have to look at him and he says it. I can say one word and he says it. If I don't agree with him I'm told I'm moody. I've literally had enough of it! I've asked him to stop and yet he doesn't.

Am I making a big deal out of it? I'm generally a pretty happy person (despite what my face says apparently!).

What makes him think you're moody?

@Gilda152 I've no idea, he's the only person that ever says it!

Is take up calling him "Moody Fucker".

I'd snap and tell him to fuck off 😂

If I don't agree with him I'm told I'm moody.

Ah, so he's a twat. Tell him to change the broken record.

It's sooo annoying isn't it! My natural face must look quite grumpy and my dp is always saying "what's up with you?"
NOTHING 😂 but I'm moody now! Lol.

@HappyCamperT5 That's exactly what I mean! He'll say it over and over again until I'm starting to get cross and then he'll say 'listen to yourself, the way you're talking to me, you are moody!'.

He sounds like he’s doing it on purpose. Pushing your buttons to justify it. Does he get out of anything ? Emotional or physical?
I mean I’m reality, he simply sounds like a cunt. And I couldn’t stay.

Does he look like he’s getting amusement out of it? I mean there’s no way he doesn’t know it’s pissing you off…

@Twosides123456 He's not laughing or anything when he does it which makes it even stranger!

Tis an odd one when people do that, it's like they bait for an argument or a reaction to then say see your being x

He must get some weird kick out of annoying you. He knows what he’s doing, and him winding you up purposely isn’t the action of a loving partner.

I agree with others, he's continually picking at you with his criticism of your "mood". Pulling you down and making you question yourself.

This is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation. He sounds like a prick, sorry.

I feel your pain.

Any time my dh looks at my face he says 'what's wrong with you?'.

Nothing is wrong with me, I can only conclude my ageing face looks troubled and angry while at rest 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can be very grating though.

I did this to a friend once - asked what was up as she had a real scowl. There was nothing wrong, but she just has a really bad wrinkle on her forehead giving her a permanent scowl.
Look in the mirror and consider botox. If you are happy with your face, tell him where to go...

If I don't agree with him, I'm told I'm moody you could botox your face until it's an immovable mask and he still be a miserable twat. It seems obvious to me what the problem is here and its definitely not your face, or anything you've done x

My ex used to bait me constantly. I mostly walked on eggshells to keep the peace but when I ever got close to snapping at his annoying manchild ways (like him leaving the toilet in a disgusting state) I'd get "OHHHH, are you being shitty?? Well, you'd better get horribly shitty about that then!" etc.

Then he cheated on me and threw him out.

Should've dumped him sooner for being an emotionally abusive twat 🤷🏽‍♀️

Urgh I totally get this. My ex used to say ‘you seem angry’ if I didn’t ask a question in a light and fluffy way. I told him I didn’t like him saying it but he carried on ‘because it was how he was feeling’ so funnily enough I would start feeling angry

It’s so annoying. You’re being blocked from responding because then you do appear moody. Horrible tactic!

Exactly. It's such a shit, manipulative move because you either HAVE to ignore it and be sweetness and light, even though he's being a dick, or you rise to it and get justifiably angry but in so doing you prove him right.

Who are all these nasty men? Maybe they're related.

Call him out on it. Next time he says it, ask him what he gets out of constantly calling you moody.
I once told my dh that he’d become boring and his opinion has started mattering to me less and less. He soon stopped similar nonsense.

I honestly could have wrote this thread and the replies! What age r u 😂

Why not give a big stupid laugh at nothing regularly. Say it is raining and laugh. Especially if something goes wrong for dh. Then if he says why are you laughing, you can call him moody, and keep laughing at nothing. If he says you are stupid, laugh even harder. I can guarantee this will bring everything to a head and he will stop saying you are moody.

What's he like otherwise? Loving? Supportive? Understanding? D'you feel fufilled by your relationship with him?

I find it hard to believe that daily name calling is part of an otherwise healthy relationship, and think there may be more going on.

Especially since your posting here, which suggests you need validation, and you're not sure it's ok to be pissed off at being name-called every day.

Next time he says it politely and calmly ask to explain what he means as you don’t understand. Get him to really break it down

I literally could have written your post and replies.... What age r u 😂