Fed up of being called moody

[fonejack]

As the title says, I'm fed up with my DP calling me moody. It's literally a daily occurrence. I don't even have to look at him and he says it. I can say one word and he says it. If I don't agree with him I'm told I'm moody. I've literally had enough of it! I've asked him to stop and yet he doesn't.

Am I making a big deal out of it? I'm generally a pretty happy person (despite what my face says apparently!).

Reply with 'Well, you're ugly but I can get happier!'

He is obviously doing it on purpose.

Your options are either to suck it up and live with it for the rest of your life, 60+ years of being told your moody every single day.

Or leave.

This is nonsense on his part so do it back. Pick a word eg: sensitive and anytime he questions you or mentions you being moody, repeat one of the following:
You seem very sensitive.
Your quite sensitive today.
How come your so sensitive.
Why are you so sensitive?
Your always so sensitive.
Were you always this sensitive?
Your tone and body laungauge show me your sensitive
Etc.

@EarthSight

Some people's moods change like the wind, on a daily basis, but if you honestly think you are a steady, pretty happy person generally, then I think he's either very bad at reading people or he's using this to control you.

Think about it. You are not allowed to gave an negative emotion, not allowed to show any kind of resistance, not allowed to argue, challenge him or stand-up for yourself without it being framed as emotional instability. It's an effective way of either winding someone up or keeping them quiet. Really bad sign of character.

I agree with this. It’s pre-empting any complaint or difference of opinion or any feelings that aren’t totally wow dh aren’t you wonderful I won’t ever ask you to do anything.

Sounds like a form of negging to me.

He says it when you're not, then keeps saying it until it upsets you.

You have to question why he does this and what he wants to get out of it. If he was worried you were unhappy he wouldn't keep saying it until you are unhappy. He's not asking what he can do to help you either. Sounds like he's simply doing it to piss you off

I would think it'smanipulation to try and get you to delight him and try and please him at all times.

Whatever it is, he's a twat, and the accusing you of being moody if you don't do everything he wants makes that clear.

OP it's emotional abuse and it won't get better..

My ex would do a similar but slightly more passive aggressive thing. He would sort of faux cautiously approach me whilst looking like he was trying to work out if I was in a mood or not.

As if to say 'Ooh is the big angry woman in a bad mood or not'......cunt

@fonejack

As the title says, I'm fed up with my DP calling me moody. It's literally a daily occurrence. I don't even have to look at him and he says it. I can say one word and he says it. If I don't agree with him I'm told I'm moody. I've literally had enough of it! I've asked him to stop and yet he doesn't.

Am I making a big deal out of it? I'm generally a pretty happy person (despite what my face says apparently!).

Ignore him... and just chill in ur own zone before he calls u moody u just say yeah yeah I know I'm moody lol 😆... just chill

Its ok this morning I was told to stop moaning about everything ( I'm poorly with this pregnancy) and that I'm only a few weeks but I'm already a right mardy cn !

Do you have DC together. If not could you live apart so you could have whatever mood you want without having to answer to a Fucking man.

He's projecting.

It would be a deal-breaker for me because it shows a significant lack of self-reflection.