Just told my husband I want to separate

[Kione]

Please hold my hand.
It's been a boring non-existing relationship for years. I tried before but he convinced me to stay.
I want to enjoy life.
I am scared of the pain.
Got two kids. Terrified at how they will take it.

@Snoken

That’s tough OP. Are you on such friendly terms that you can hang out and do stuff together as a family?

That sounds tough going on her husband.

Yeah I think that will be tough on him. He was not friendly when I picked the kids

Have really related to this post and wish everyone well.
I am in a very similar place, trying to work out if It's over or not and knowing I will need a huge amount of strength and courage to separate and tell him, let alone how hard it will be to stick to the decision .
I can't bear the thought of hurting him. And as we rent and the home is in my name, I would not just be ending our relationship but he will be losing his home and most importantly forcing him to leave our son who is 8.
Sure have got to be 100% sure !

I am 100% sure and the decision is made, and it is the right one. Still hard.
@HamstersBudgies would you rather live a sad, unhappy life, because you don't want to hurt him? Teach your 8 year old son that that's a good relationship?

I have a thought, it might be a bit sentimental but it could help you through this part. Maybe write him a letter, don’t give it to him now as I’m sure that would be too tough for him. But write down how you feel and you are so concerned for him and well everything you’re feeling, with the intention of giving it to him one day when you know he’s over the hump, to acknowledge that during this time, where you may appear cold and uncaring, you weren’t, you were instead doing what you felt was best for both of you at this time and in the long run.

It may help you process everything that is happening for you now.

I don't really feel like doing that, but it is an idea, thank you

Need to find motivation to unpack and tidy up the new place too