Dating help for a man

[feeficken]

Hello,

So I am dipping my toes into OLD and need a little help, oh this is so sad lol but I guess I need to get some advice from somewhere.

Basically met my wife through a friend and we were childhood sweethearts (or so I thought) and we where together over 20 years. We’ve now separated and I’ve decided to give the OLD a go see if I can connect with someone. I’m only in my late 30s.

I’m an average looking guy no stunner lol but what I don’t have in looks I make up in personality (affectionate, loyal, dependable, independent etc) problem is I’ve never “chatted” up a woman or approached another woman in that way so I am totally lost! I missed out on all that.

So when messaging what are you ladies looking for? I try to ask questions about the person ask about their interests and stuff to try and see if we can click and to keep the chat going while offering some details about myself. I guess I worry about coming off a bit boring lol

Yes good point. I've only had experience of the swipey apps where the other person can't see your search parameters. I agree this could backfire on sites like match and POF. A bit like putting degree level educated only or high earners only etc.

I actually hated talking on the phone or FaceTiming with someone that I hadn't met . To me it is more natural to meet in person . As to how long ? I chatted to and met my now H in less than 24 hours .