an awkward one and a subject I don't really talk to anyone about. Especially not my parents or sister!! They would worry too much! I met my partner - whose significantly younger than me - after I finally got away from my previous, very toxic relationship. He was amazing at the beginning. Was there at all my craziness & when I was homeless after my ex locked me out of my house & kept my children away from me. That's all resolved now & I have a good relationship with my kids, but not the ex.
Sorry, but this is long!
OK, so me & my partner got pregnant very quickly! Was mirrical considering my age, polysyctic ovaries & coeliac disease!!
Our beautiful baby arrived healthy and double strong!
Fast forward 3 years. My current partner has anger issues. One occasion he threatened to smash the glass fire front over my head - after he'd tried to strangle me. He was drunk & super apologetic the next day, so i gave him a second chance. He's punched holes in walls & doors, pulled the door off it's hinges in his rages. Most recently he spat directly in my face in front of our child during an argument. I was just trying to get him to calm down as I could see he was loosing it! When he spat, I told him to leave immediately! He always takes our baby when he goes & doesn't tell me where they are.
He says he's accepted he has a problem & has called the Dr - currently waiting for an appointment. I'm so at a loss what to do now?? Should i accept him back & support him? He's so good with our child! Or keep him out for everyone's sake!? I don't want my child growing up thinking that's acceptable behaviour! He actually has a very good heart. His brothers all have relationship issues though constantly - violence usually a factor.
I'm completely on.my own where I currently live. He has a huge family all locally.
What do I do????
From an exhausted , older mother whose trying to keep her head above water.