How to handle a chronic sulker?

[FridaMo]

I've been with my OH for 7 years now and we are getting married next year. We are generally peaceful and happy but he has a very bad flaw of sulking when he's annoyed. Sometimes it's justified annoyance at me, sometimes less so. He's definitely quick to grumpiness.

My natural urge is to make peace. I want upsets dealt with quickly, including my own, but after so many occasions where my attempt to mend fences was rejected ive become humiliation-averse and i really get annoyed at the sulking now so sometimes i join him and we end up in a deathly silence for days on end. Til he's finally ready to move on. It makes me desperately unhappy. My tolerance for grumpiness and sullenness is very low, i find the protracted punishment painful and unnecessary, and i feel so dispensable. But despite several long, calm conversations about how we handle conflict/how i feel about sulking, and even after regretting missing out on fun plans because he's keeping us in Coventry.. He still defaults to this horrible mode.

I am feeling a bit hopeless and upset.

Any advice.

So if it's an emotional flaw and down to immaturity, I presume he's like this with everyone, friends, family and work colleagues? I mean if he can't help it then it must happen with everyone in his life?

What is trying to say, is that if it's only you he sulks with, then he CAN control it, and he CHOOSES to subject you to this. Not very nice considering that he KNOWS how much it hurts and affects you.

I married a sulker, 10 years of silent treatment when he was unhappy = 10 years of me walking on egg shells and my self esteem in the toilet